Feeling lonely so far

Transfers/Transferring

I’m a sophomore transfer and I’m having a much harder time adjusting to Northwestern than I expected. I’m wondering if anyone else has felt similarly, especially other transfers or people who had a rough first few weeks socially.

I’ve been here for about 2 weeks now, and I still haven’t made a friend. I’ve introduced myself to people in my classes, talked to people at events, went to Hillel/Chabad, etc., but haven’t met any potential friends. I know it could take a long time to find the right friends in college, but I honestly can’t endure multiple quarters alone. I see everyone around me having groups and friends and people to walk with and eat with or sit with in class while I just haven’t found anyone.

What makes it especially difficult is that I transferred from a school where I already had a very close friend and a comfortable routine. I knew transferring would mean starting over socially, but I underestimated how painful it would be to go from having someone I spent tons of time with to basically having nobody here yet.

I know it’s only been a couple weeks, and I’m not expecting to have a huge friend group immediately. It’s just a rough time right now and wanted to see whether anyone else went through something similar.

If you transferred or had a really lonely first few weeks at Northwestern, did things eventually start feeling different? Honestly, I mostly just want to know I’m not the only person who has felt this way.

Posted Sep 25, 2026, 11:00 PM UTC

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