Relationship advice
Hi guys, I need some advice.
I’ve known this guy for a very long time. He’s Muslim like me, and he’s also a family friend. I’m at the age where I’m starting to seriously think about settling down, and honestly, he has the personality and qualities I would want in a future husband.
The only issue is that I’m just not physically attracted to him at all. No matter how much I try, I can’t seem to be flirty, affectionate, or touchy with him. I’ve known him for years, so it’s not like I just haven’t gotten to know him enough. Romantically, I just can’t seem to develop those feelings.
For those who are married or have been in a similar situation, is this something I should be concerned about if we were to get married? Can attraction and chemistry develop over time once you’re actually together, or is it something I should worry about?
I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who has experienced something similar, especially if your feelings changed after marriage. I’m genuinely trying to understand whether this is something that can grow or if I should take the lack of attraction seriously. Thank you.
Posted Sep 28, 2026, 4:39 AM UTC