Not entirely sure what to put as a title. Just a situation ive found myself in i need to vent about.

Sorry in advance if this is hard to read or understand.

A couple months ago my Brother's gf got her older cousin to follow me on instagram and we started chatting. A couple days after we started talking my brother heard i was talking to her and told me i was her type and was hyping me up about it. We talk everyday and 2 weeks in i asked if she'd want to meet sometime since i havent ever actually met her in person. She said she would like to but then said she had to clear something up, that she wasnt looking for anything romantic and wasnt sure if i was told by my brother or his gf and had to be sure i knew so she wasnt leading me on which i respected. She did suggest a place for us to meet however and we kept talking like normal and i didnt bring it back up at all. A week after that my brothers gf asked me about her and how things were going so i showed her what she said. I was told she's been through quite a lot and is the avoident type so she's probably just being avoident so I kept talking to her the same as normal and i started to really like her. We were having a deeper conversation today and it led to hee bringing up why she isnt looking for anything romantic right now and seeing her say that again kind of was a reality check in a way and it sucks. I really like her and was hoping something could happen one day but she's clearly not ready. I enjoy talking to her and i appreciate and value the friendship her and i have devoloped but it kind of hurts because i want something i know she isnt ready for. I know that if i keep talking to her the feelings might grow more especially if we hangout and that will only lead to more hurt on my end. I dont want to randomly get distant or dissapear on her either and idk if i should talk to her about it or not. Im scared to ruin what we have