Having the hardest time being socialized
Hey guys I just wanted to rant a bit, I'm a 22y/o male Chinese immigrant, been living all my life in China until landing here in Canada in 2019, currently enrolled in University in maritime province. I just feel like I'm having the toughest time socializing with people, like the toughest ever in my life.
I'll say that I've been an introvert since the beginning, but there was never a point where I struggled making friends (back in China). As moving to Canada, lots of things have changed in terms of language, culture, people, etc. However I could still somehow socialize, having a decent life growing up.
But now I'm in 3rd year of university, and pretty much zero human interactions going on. I just going around with the same people I've known from day 1, no interaction with new people, regardless of gender. Even that same people are more of campus friends, I don't really get to meet them outside of campus. Dry phone 24/7, same routine every day as lecture-gym-home-sleep, stopped playing sports. Well I did try running those sports back especially soccer with random people on the field, but I suck and realized theres level in this lol.
Anyways I'm just dealing with some real bad mental issues, knowing the fact that I barely met anyone and barely experienced anything throughout my 3 years of campus life, and seeing group of people enjoying their moments for some reason just ruins my mood. Probably out of jealousy.
Also just to mention that I'm not fluent in English, and try keeping the conversation with white people is a challenge for me. And no I'm not blaming them at ALL, just cuz my school has majority white demographic and everyone beside in lecture or campus are white people.
Back to mental stuff, it's so weird cuz I like going out, having fun, but at the same time, I don't want to go out. I know it sounds dumb but idk how to describe better, it's just i'm down but not really. In fact I haven't done any of those activities for years, almost forgot how to have fun in life lol. Forgot how to make friends too after years of barely having human interactions.
I just hate my life so much where everyday is the same yet can't figure out how to fix, no balls to cold approach someone or joining such events alone, while my grade isn't even great. Yea it's fucked. My fault for too much ranting but at the end, how could I fix my life at this point? I just want some life advice as assuming I'm not the only one going/have gone thru this in University.
Posted Sep 29, 2026, 2:20 AM UTC