I think it's time to give up

Me married 40 partner 45 genders not relevant. They are checked out rude, yell at on if our kids wat more than the other. The one that's neurodivergent with ADHD and it A LOT to handle in the mornings before meds

I'm ADHD, my partner treats our child the way one of my parents treated me. That parent fucked me up. I call it when I see it to my partner, but they have their own unaddressed ADHD with lack of coping skills so they never accept they were feeding into the morning drama.

We argue about how I never help in the morning with kid stuff. I have explained that it's a tense environment for me and I shut down because of my upbringing and experience growing up.

It's been years, and I'm TIRED. SO TIRED, tired of seeing my baby be yelled out and their sparkle dimming because they have to quiet their zest for life. So tired of seeing how my partner is making mornings worse. When my partner travels for work, mornings are fairly calm, evening dinner is calm.

TLDR: I want to check out of my marriage because my partner is socially and emotionally inept