perspective on the gender disparity in scat from a bi guy new to the scene

I (21M) have had this fetish since I was a kid but I only found out I was bi a few years ago. I was a virgin until a few months ago when I found a fwb (genderfluid). They’re not into it, but are supportive and suggested I look for more fwb on grindr.

I have a profile that doesn’t explicitly state i’m into scat bc I have my face as my pfp, but heavily hints towards it. I’ve gotten quite a few people into scat and fed a couple of them although I want to do more. I’ve got a few bodies under my belt now but still no one afab. This wouldn’t bother me aside from the fact that I vastly prefer scat play from women or at least fem presenting people than men (idk something about a beautiful woman covered in shit gets me going more than a cute boy covered in shit). On grindr most people i’ve met into scat were very masc, not cute :( and every twink that had expressed interest ghosted me.

I’ve made a post on r/scatmeetups and the only response I got was one guy twice my age (not into older dudes). I’ve responded to a few posts and got no response. I just imagine that women’s dms must be flooded and even if i write something that would get them to respond, they won’t see it.

grindr is a very easy place to be blatantly horny and explicit with what you want. There’s not really a place like that to find women, I understand the reasons why and it fucking sucks that women have to be more worried about being harassed than men. It sucks that women are slut shamed more than men and as a result are less likely to get into extreme kink like this. All the other sociological factors that lead men being more into this fucking suck. give me a world where everyone is unafraid to express their sexuality and explore their desires.

tldr: gender is stupid and made up and so is the disparity between them in this community. I’ve talked to too many men into scat, I wanna talk to a woman into it :(