Texting after setting up the date?
I know this general question has been asked before, but this is a slightly special situation.
I (28m) matched with a woman (28f) who seems really cool. Her match note said “don’t be shy, ask me out!” and so after a pretty brief convo I asked her out and she seemed pretty receptive. We got down a time and place, then both agreed it sounded good, and that was the last thing we said.
I know common consensus is to text back and forth at least a little until the date. The date is a week from our last messages (yesterday), and so it would seem a bit awkward to not say anything the whole time. However, she mentioned verbatim “I prefer to meet in person. I don’t like doing the whole text thing getting to know each other.” So now I’m a bit worried I would come off as someone who doesn’t pay attention or respect boundaries if I send her more messages.
Also, since our convo was brief before setting a date, I’m struggling to think of what I would even say.
Two possible messages I thought of are:
”I know you mentioned you’re not super into texting a lot, but in any case here’s my number ___ so you can reach me faster with anything!”
Or something playful about a shared interest like:
”Thought I‘d let you know I’m watching a documentary about (shared interest) right now. Just to make you a little jealous haha”
What do you think, and what would you do in this situation?
Posted Sep 29, 2026, 2:31 AM UTC