I just realized I think I’ve been stealthed and coerced by my ex.

The first time we ever had sex he was fingering me and kept saying cmon pls let me put it in itll make u feel even better and I eventually said yes but I was rlly on the fence on it and him asking and me getting fingered made me say fuck it. And then I realized the first time we had shower sex (and at this time we always used condoms and I made it known I wanted to use condoms always) he didn’t use one. He didn’t ask me if it was okay or anything like that and when I realized he just acted like he forgot and it was an accident. I just learned what stealthing is and I realized he basically did it to me. I guess I wonder if it really was on accident but idk I’m not naive. Was this really sa???