Why do men always let their ego win

To give context I 31(f) and he's a 32(m) we have been in an on off situationship I guess where we met first time Jan this year were perfect but he just is horrible at communication (he works labour job so I do understand he gets exhausted) but I got frustrated and left. Fast forward to may we again spoke chatted and got together this time I was more blunt and asked him what he thinks we are as I didn't wanna go again through the situationship bs as I'm already out of a long term relationship and don't wanna again be dragged into another 7 year bs with a guy who is "figuring it out". But he just refused to acknowledge it and kept saying I'm not ready or why do I even wanna date him and self doubting himself playing the victim. Fast forward to recent we fought cuz I went on a trip alone and this guy calls me three days later casually leaving me voicemail on heyy how are you not heard from you. No asking me on that day did u reach safe no nothing tbh even when he meets me he never cared if I reached home safe never dropped me home as he stays 1 hour 30 mins from me. So I told him I was hurt and I'm not dealing with him and I'm literally crying on the phone with him and the man just says I had a long day I'm tired that's it and I just cut the call and block. He was stalking my IG and I called him out on it and he said he will stop now but he's just been pissing me off. I don't understand what he wants he doesn't know what he wants and I seriously do not wanna deal with him cuz I'm already heartbroken and hurt and I don't understand why men are like this when a girl genuinely likes them they run off. I just need advice he has left me alone now but I'm trying to heal but all I think about is why he couldn't just talk with me and work this out and it's been driving me insane for the past one week. Thank you for the advice I'm sorry for the rant.