Please help do I confront him and how? I already suspect he’s playing me so help me confront it

So for months I’ve been seeing a guy and we said we’re official. I’m kicking my own self because I asked what this is. We met on bumble and he wrote he wants a LTR there but we never discussed it. After 2 monthsI asked and we went official. A bit before that I feel like he stopped asking to meet so I said my own dating intentions and we discussed what we wanted.

Before going official he said we could be exclusive which i didn’t realize there’s a difference. Heres the issue. For the 2 months I saw him we only met once a week. And as we progressed to the 2 month mark he told me he lives with a female friend who moved to our area shortly after he did (really recently).

He told me he was only seeing me after I asked but he said he had literally so many dates while actively dating like a lot of them. Since I only saw him every week or other week in those early stages I thought I was being careful and pacing myself till the excuses came.

He would meet me, then as the night went on he had to go because he’s busy and or tired. Like the gym or napping. A few times he invited me back to his but since he’s busy I said we’ll catch up another time.

Only later did I realize what he implied. Especially after we went official. He just constantly asks me over only when the friend he lives with isn’t there.

I haven’t been seeing him a lot because he’s had weddings a lot of weekends, but I brought up the fact that he’ll only spend 2 or so hours outside with me. Idk if thays normal because I didn’t date much!!

He tells me it is and his time is precious? So itll be 6:30 we meet after work and 8 or so He goes home. Then on weekends the same shit happens. Meet at 10am? He has to go by noon.

When I mentioned it bothering me he didn’t have much of an answer other than sometimes he’ll stay longer. Some nights he stays out till 9-10 but other times he wants to push it way more. And other times he seems to be the type where he subtly brings stuff up instead of directly. Saying we live so far (30 min drive) and he likes to keep to his routine.

I brought up where the relationship is going or what our intent is. He’s talked to me about it but his only questions are : when will we have sex. Since the 2 month mark. I have been super transparent with wanting to feel secure first. He has said it’s childish to not have sex, said we don’t hahe to yet I shoukd just come over. Always pushes that when I do though so I told him no it’s my timeline. Says we’ll break up if we don’t (though at first said we won’t depending how long).

My issue is I sit there and take it. I don’t call it out but he has no issue shading me. He also talks about how busy he is and precious his time is or how he’s a swimmer and active. I’m not… snd sometimes I feel he resents me because he gave me a workout regimen 2x.

I’m active but different ways from him. I have different interests. I’m also probably at a different experience level from him. I need far more emotional security but every time I try to explain it to him he acts like he’s already giving me so much. He says: we can hang out. I’m free x day.

It’s never: I really wanna see you. I like you.

He is sometiems more physically affectionate other times not. He’s brought me around friends but said his family doesn’t know. He’s visiting them next week and said I can come meet him before? But not during. Anyway idk I feel like I need direct proof or a conversation. But really I know that I feel like I’m not a priority. He said he’s friends with an ex and I can’t “take that”. Idk maybe that should be enough.