Ability to comfort myself and others

Physical and even emotional discomfort can sometimes be due to physical issues, and fixing physical problems can improve comfort. One simple example is when it's hot indoors but cool outside and you open a window to make it more comfortable indoors. Another pattern is when someone wants something and you give it to them and they feel better. I am listing these examples to explain and clarify that I'm not talking about such things here.

Humans seem to have some ability to comfort themselves and others which doesn't directly rely on solving problems which are stressing them out. Maybe it's not fully separated from solving problems though, because full separation would be escapism or maybe even deception. It might relate to commitment to help, like "I see you have this problem, and I will be there for you to help you with it, so it won't be so bad". In that case, just the commitment to be there to help, and faith in that commitment, might be enough to change perspective before anything is done about the actual problem. There may also be other patterns behind it.

It's weird thinking about this. It seems to be an elementary aspect of human life that people experience countless times and don't analyze. I'm only trying to analyze it because it's mysteriously lacking in my own life.

This is also relevant to working with psychological parts. Theoretically, IFS seems simple, find Self, and you find this. In practice, in my mind, this does not seem simple.