I’m married, my husband works overseas, and I’ve gotten involved with my 20yr old neighbor. I don’t know whether to end it.

I’m a 28F and married. My husband works overseas, so he is away most of the time and usually comes home only once every couple of months. Our relationship isn’t necessarily terrible, but being apart for such long periods has been difficult for me, especially when it comes to loneliness, affection, intimacy, and physical needs.

There is a 20 yr old guy who lives nearby. He is my neighbor’s son, so our families are familiar with each other. For some time, I noticed that he was paying a lot of attention to me. At first I tried not to think too much about it, but eventually it became obvious that he was interested in me. There were times when I felt like he was watching and stalking me, and honestly, I was aware of the attention even though I knew I probably shouldn't encourage it.

One day he came to my house, and things went further than they should have. He made a move, I didn't stop it, and we ended up sleeping together.

I know this is where I made a serious mistake. I’m married, and he is my neighbor's 20-year-old son. There are so many reasons this could become a huge mess.

The problem is that it didn't just happen once. We've continued seeing each other secretly behind his parents backs. Neither of us is openly acknowledging what's happening, and everything depends on keeping it hidden. The secrecy itself is starting to make me uncomfortable.

At the same time, I can't pretend that there isn't attraction or that I haven't enjoyed the attention and intimacy. My husband being away for months at a time has made me feel lonely, and this situation filled a need that I wasn't dealing with very well.

I'm not looking for people to tell me that what I did was right.

Should I end this completely before it becomes even more complicated?