Hey guys, didn't even realize I broke 600 days. I'll be 100% honest so feel free to ask me anything.
I started about 4 years ago and went on various streaks. Before then I was insanely addicted and my life revolved around fapping. Eventually I decided enough is enough and went on hard mode. Completely turned my life around and am now where I never expected to be.
Posted Jul 28, 2014, 2:16 AM UTC
How many attempts did it take you to get on your streak?
A lot. Can't remember now because the memory is wiped. As I changed those times faded and I began assuming I've always been the way I am now. Of course I remember some stuff if I try hard to think of it. If I had to guess though, I'd say it's in the 50s-100s of streaks over the last 4-5 years. Some longer some shorter.
Are you done for good? Or are you going to masturbate once in a blue moon like some other people start to do when they get incredibly long streaks?
Done fapping for good. I'm just not a person who would fap anymore. I have recently been wrestling with the idea of hooking up with girls in real life, but so far hard mode is winning out.
Are you better able to attract women?
I guess so. Honestly haven't been focusing on that, which some people may find surprising. I've been so busy with my professional life that I don't have much time for ladies. For example, I got my Masters and moved across the US to a different state for a new job. I had a girl tell me she loved me, and another girl pretty much threw herself at me, and now that I think about it there were a couple more girls that were interested. I didn't pursue any of them and decided to focus on getting a professional career going.
Ever have any flatlines?
Tons of flatlines. Later on you lose flatlines. Instead you gain what I think of as dips. Because you gain so much there must be a consolidation. Like a sine and cosine for example.
What was the one hardest battle you've face so far in your journey?
It's relative. I can say it's when I first decided to nofap hard mode 2 years ago, but that doesn't seem at all hard now. My hardest battle so far was this last weekend. I just couldn't figure out what was wrong but my mind was bumping. I think it happened because I was coming off a hot week of progress. Whatever goes up must come down as they say. I kept having sexual thoughts and I had a headache the whole weekend. It was intense. My opinion is that my mind uses the weekend time to change the brain patterns like a sore muscle that's growing, but it's that constant annoying deep pain (the good kind). This causes a ton of discomfort that you can't really feel directly because the brain has no feeling. Instead it manifests itself in other ways.
thanks for answering, that's some good insight into the workings of this practice. I guess one battle at a time.
np. I think for people who have been addicted as long as I their brains don't change overnight. It's different for everyone.
Holy shit...603 Days.
Are you still objectifying women now? What's your perspective on them?
I like them. I'm attracted to them now. Before I would see a girl and not feel anything. Now when I see a girl I get this feeling in my head and my body that I want her.
On objectifying, it's kind of hard to objectify them now. I might have lost that completely.
How do you stop objectifying ! I feel like as my streak continues it gets worse, my last streak on hardmode was 47 days and it was the same way. Sometimes I feel like I have ADHD because I check women out so much... I do meditate which has helped but I still feel like I do it too much. Any tips?
Checking women out gets only worse and worse. Not sure if that's the same as objectifying them though. As your streak continues you will get hornier and hornier. I think that's natural. I say if you're checking the girl out you might as well go say hi. Make sure if she catches you staring that you wave or acknowledge that you were looking. Smiling works too.