My husband is finally back in our bed!

For the past two years my son has been cosleeping with me. For the first year, my husband still fit. We only had a queen size and he is 6'4" and takes up half on his own. After that he wasn't getting good sleep and moved to the couch. This was not ideal but it was worked for us. Any time we tried to get him to sleep in his crib or mattress on the floor, he would cry until he was on the verge of puking so we waited...and waited. Finally at 2 years and 2 months we were ready. I read a few books and researched online. We decided on a method similar to Ferber. We would do a routine (bath, pjs, teeth, nursing (for now), kiss, and place in bed with guard rail). Then we would set the timer for 5 minutes. We would comfort him for about a minute and set timer for 10 minutes. Reapeat then set timer for 15 minutes. We really expected to have a hard time. He has always resisted going to sleep. The first night he was asleep in 30 minutes. Woke up a few times and cried for a few minutes. Longest stretch was midnight and he cried for 45 minutes with us doing the 5, 10, 15 minute checkins. The second night he went to sleep after 1 minute of crying. We though we must be dreaming. He woke a few times but never cried longer than 5 minutes. Third night he didn't cry at all before laying down to sleep. Whimpered a few times during the night. We have had a few back slides where he cries for about 30 minutes again either to start or around midnight, but for the most part he is easy to comfort and it is getting better. We are all getting better sleep and my husband is off the couch. We weren't able to do this as an infant, but he can tolerate it better now that he is older and we aren't worried about damage. We don't think this is selfish as it is good to develop good sleep habits. He has cried longer during some of his tantrums. I have seen some parents really berate other parents over sleep training (calling them selfish and accusing them of child abuse), but I am so happy it worked for us. Just wanted to share our story. If cosleeping still works for you until kindergarten that is great. If you sleep train at 6 months, that is great too. It was just our time. Not every kid will be this easy I'm sure, but we really thought we were in for a battle and it turned out to be a breeze. If anyone wants more details, just let me know. The books didn't really tell me info I didn't know, they were more like a pep talk about how you aren't going to screw up your kid by doing this. I just cherry picked the ideas I liked. Oh and the crying did feel like forever and the timer really helped to make me realize that it wasn't as long as it seemed.