My [23M] roommate [23M] snores so loudly it's affecting my relationship with my gf [23f].

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So me and my gf, we'll call her Eliot have been together for almost 3 years now. I live with a couple other people and share a room with one. My new roommate, for privacy we'll call him Turk, moved in over the summer. I share a room with Turk, and he snores epically loud. I'm a heavy sleeper but even now it's starting to affect me too. My gf isn't that heavy of a sleeper so Eliot gets woken up often by it. We're all students so she really gets annoyed because than she has to wake up tired and go to class.

We've tried getting ear plugs but Eliot says they're too big for her ears and uncomfortable. Sometimes we move to the living room to keep sleeping but the couches are very uncomfortable and her back is bad. My roommate, Turk is somewhat of a douchey/rude guy. Everyone in our apartment has known each other for quite a long time, while Turk was a stranger we met through a roommate finding group. Turk's snoring lasts almost throughout the entire night, and it's hard to go back to sleep after being awoken. Another kicker is that Turk sometimes has his girl over and they fuck in the middle of the night even though me and my girlfriend are sleeping like 10 feet away from them.

These things have added up since the summer, and since we're on lease until summer 2015 it's going to stay that way. My girlfriend has started to get rather upset at the situation, which I can't blame her for, but now she really doesn't want to come over all that often and/or stay the night. I feel like talking to Turk can't do too much since it's snoring so there aren't very many possibilities, plus he has a very dgaf attitude so I doubt he'll want to do anything. I thought I would post this and see if reddit and r/relationships had any advice on if and how I should talk to Turk, or suggestions for Eliot and I to block out the snoring

TL;DR - roommate snores like a boar and it's having an affect on the time me and my gf can see each other.

Posted Dec 16, 2014, 5:46 PM UTC

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possibly_a_coyote•

Find a grown-up living situation if you want a grown-up relationship.

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averagepainterOP•

Ideally at the end of this current lease, I'll have graduated and started a real full time job. The problem is I'm still a broke college student who can barely afford $400 rent, so I have to live with a few people. No way really around getting out of my lease before it's up.

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ThatsATallGlassOfNo•

Someone's a Scrubs fan.

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averagepainterOP•

Seemed like a good, neutral way to name people :)

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kkunjujiki•

There's not much you can do other than suck it up and stick to it until he moves out or until the lease is over. You could casually mention it to me and say something that might need to get checked out by a doctor if there's any medical issues with snoring.

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averagepainterOP•

I was thinking of mentioning it, because even though it's unlikely maybe he doesn't even know he snores. He had a incident/fight where he fell pretty hard on his head so maybe something is messed up with his jaw/nose?

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KriiLunAus•

Have your roomie see a doctor about the snoring to rule out sleep apnea. It is a serious problem and needs medical attention if he does.

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docfarnsworth•

what the hell would he do about the snoring anyway? why dont you spend the night at her place?

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averagepainterOP•

She still technically lives at home with her mom and siblings. I moved away for college so I have my own place. Yeah I figure it's a pretty shit situation without much to do. Was wondering if anyone has dealt with something similar in a way I hadn't thought of. :/

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docfarnsworth•

Yeah, that sucks. Maybe she could listen to music or something (headphones/earbuds) to cover it up? good luck

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