r/Tinder•
HeyHarry

I got fooled on my first Tinder experience :(

tl;dr: I got tricked to show up for a meet-up by a fake/troll account on my very first tinder experience

So I recently started using tinder, like two weeks ago and didn't really have much luck, cause well I don't follow rules 1 and 2. I had some bots and two real matches. One of them unmatched me after I wrote to her and the other one was surprisingly texting me first.

I can post the screenshots if you want but I don't feel like editing it all onto the pics, cause the conversation was in german, so I'll just tell you how it went in text form:

Her: smiley face with hearts as eyes

Me: Oh hey, how are you?

H: Obviously great when I see you

M: bootlicker/brown-noser (no idea how to translate really)

H: Wanna meet?

(I'm already smelling something fishy, this is going way too quickly)

M: You don't beat around the bush, huh? Where are you from?

H: I'm really into you and town close to mine (now "she" actually made a play on words in connection to my previous message but I can't translate it at all. It was actually kind of corny and funny, which made me think she was legit.)

M: You are actually overwhelming me a bit with your excitement, I'm not used to that. Are you studying or what are you doing?

(couple hours later, no response, thought I fucked up) :

M: To get back to meeting up, I'd be free on sunday or monday.

(no response for like 5 days, then suddenly at 9 p.m.)

H: are you free right now?

M: Nah, I'm studying and have to get up early tomorrow, as boring as that sounds. I'm free tomorrow after lunch though.

H: Is studying more important than sex to you?

M: I didn't know what you were planning till now. That sounds a lot different than maybe meeting up for a drink or coffee. Wanna come over?

H: send me your address smug smiley face

(nah mate I'm not gonna give you my address, something is wrong here)

M: We can meet at the gas station at blablabla and then go over to my place.

H: Alright, I'm there in 35mins

M: So 10:30?

H: I'm actually already omw, so in 15mins

H: I'm there, where are you?

M: omw, 2mins

M: I'm standing at the LED board

H: Am I at the right place? Look at my moments

M: I cant see any moments. Here is my number, just call me.

H: well tough luck, I'm standing right here.

M: Yea I'm standing where I told you, really cant miss me.

(At this point I realized and just walked home again)

H: Well, search for me.

M: I hope you had fun.

Then "she" tried to poke fun at my profile a little and I wished that person a happy life, that is filled by more than trolling people on the internet and unmatched the account after screenshotting the conversation and reporting/flagging the account.

Now this wasn't really much time or effort wasted (I literally just put on some pants and walked to the gas station) but I'm still kind of bummed that that is my first Tinder experience and felt like sharing as this just happened a couple of minutes ago. I'm glad that I didnt give out my address but I probably should have treated my phone number the same way :/

If you speak german and wanna have a look at the screenshots, here they are: http://imgur.com/a/dWW1v

Posted Jan 21, 2015, 10:43 PM UTC

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Moontouch•

The first red flag was how quickly and randomly she just wanted to meet up with basically no conversation beforehand. Unless you're insanely attractive, it's usually never that easy.

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BassAddictJ•

Fact

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_amplitude_•

I'm sorry man, she deserves a special place in hell.

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HeyHarryOP22/M/Straight•

Thanks. I'm actually guessing it's a dude with too much time on his hands but who knows.

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_amplitude_•

Don't give up, you'll get that first tinder lay soon.

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ShareHappyness•

Who meets at a gas station?

Pro Tip: as the guy, decide where you will meet. Make it somewhere public like coffee shop or bar. Keep it casual. If they were trolling you and don't show up or turn out to be ugly, at least you got a latte or beer out of it.

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HeyHarryOP22/M/Straight•

lol yea. I just didn't want to give out my address and instead meet up somewhere so I don't invite someone into my house before seeing them in person and the gas station was the only place near me that I could think of of the top of my head as this was supposed to be a case of "let's meet up right now!"

Would never do that if I were to actually plan a date or meet-up, don't worry

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MonsterBlash•

You've got your head on straight, good.
Aren't there any coffee place near your place? Anything?

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HeyHarryOP22/M/Straight•

Nothing really that would be open past 10 p.m. on a wednesday night AND be really close to my place. So I thought fuck it if she wants to come over that badly she'll meet me at the gas station. It was really just meant to be a place near my flat that is easy to find.

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MonsterBlash•

At what time do things close around you place? 9pm?
You can take advantage of this you know. :-)

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ShareHappyness•

Hence bar. They're usually open until like 1 or 2 am, and they're everywhere in the world.

But in general, don't meet people somewhere that isn't public with people around. You may get mugged.

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shakazulu84•

Met a stripper at a gas station once. She had no hair and sported a purple wig. Met her on Craigslist pre-Tinder.

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ShareHappyness•

Yea, that's CL. is utter garbage.

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bigRut•

Hey man sorry A couple of tips. Always get an insta or snap chat.Second this girl seemed too up front. Keep swiping, and don't let 1 bad experience deter you. Also, NEVER EVER EVER give out your address. Hell, don't even meet at her place

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hibryan•

What a fucking dick. Sorry to hear that dude, you didn't deserve it. Tinder has a lot of room to be abused though so it's good that you saw through the ruse early and didn't give an address.

What someone said here earlier is right, make sure you get at least an IG or a number to text/call them before you meet.

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SalsaRoja•

Women only use Tinder to fool men into thinking they want them but only using them to laugh at them or for self esteem boosts. No women wants to do anything with men.

Sorry, bro

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CampingThyme•

This has not been my experience...

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hibryan•

Eliott Rodgers? Is that you?

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