For those who want kids, would you be a stay-at-home dad?
Would you prefer a stay-at-home mom as a partner? Or daycare/nannying?
Posted Feb 22, 2015, 10:35 PM UTC
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No way, I can't imagine my partner maintaining attraction towards me.
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Even if she is sure she'd prefer to stay at work and would lovingly appreciate everything you did around the house? Or is it that you wouldn't date someone who prefers that anyway?
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I picture her coming home to one lego on the floor and wondering why she loves me in the first place. Pretty much assuredly every woman will list 'ambition' or 'passion' as something they find attractive in a man. Hard to be attracted to someone who stays home all day I'd think.
"This lazy slubby hubby stays home with the kids all day, he's good for nothing, why am I even with him? I'll just go fuck Brad from accounting, at least he's got a job."
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I do find passion appealing, but not necessarily career-oriented. Like I'd be into it if my partner were super into movies and had a blog for movie reviews. Even if no one read it. Or if he passionately brewed beer for our friends and us to try every month. :) Something like that.
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For a few years. But then I'd be itching to go back to work.
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That's how I feel too! I would get a little stir-crazy. I wouldn't mind if my partner wanted to stay home though.
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Totally. IMO, at least one parent should be at home with the children until they're old enough to be in school.
If I'm the one with the better paying job, I hope the wife wouldn't mind staying at home, but if it came down to it, I would be a full time dad.
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I agree that it would be nice to have a parent home for the first few years. Unless you have really killer grandparent babysitters or something. It would be hard to go back to work in most careers after a 7 year hiatus.
So you think it should basically come down to who makes more money?
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Not necessarily 100% of the time. To me, that makes the most sense. But say my wife made more money, but wanted to do the stay at home mom thing for a while, I would find a way to make it work for a few years.
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Nope. Not a chance. Nor would I want my SO to be a stay at home parent.
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So you'd go for daycare or something?
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Yes. My daughter and son have both been/are in daycare.
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If my wife made enough for all of us to live off of I'd gladly be a stay at home dad.
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Yes. I'd rather stay home cleaning the shit from my demon spawn. Then deal with someone else shit. I also hate my job so it would not take much to convince me to quit it.
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For those who want kids, would you be a stay-at-home dad?
This wouldn't be my first choice but I would if economic reality demanded it.
Would you prefer a stay-at-home mom as a partner? Or daycare/nannying?
I'd prefer one of us was with the kid all the time in their first few months of life.
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Did you hear about the Italian chef that died? He pasta way.
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I would say yes. I am older and trying to go back to college. But it would be possible to work part-time from home doing video blogging allowing me to be a stay at home dad. I say this because I have worked for too long and it's hard to completely abandon any type of creative medium without going insane.
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If I could, yeah. It'd be pretty cool. Lots of time with the kid(s) would be cool plus I like cleaning and general house stuff anyway.
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I would love to be a stay-at-home-dad.
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Who could afford that?
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Lots of people, evidently. Or else it wouldn't be a thing.
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I would love being a stay at home dad. Not realistic tho
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I'd love it but it will never happen.
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I'd love an equal time stay at home dad/mom thing. Where me and my SO both get to have equal time spending it with the kids. I would like the kids to have that experience, but I'd also like to have that experience as parents. The problem is that it's quite difficult to achieve.
Overall though, I could go either way. I'd have fun being at stay at home dad and I'd like to be able to give my SO the opportunity to be a stay at home mother if she so chose.
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You mean not working outside or inside of your home? Or just not working outside the home under any circumstances?
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I would prefer not to be. I hate relying on other people, it's just how I am. I'd like to make enough for my future wife to not have to work and be able to stay at home with the kids.
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Yeah. It definitely takes a lot of trust to forego your career. I guess it also takes a lot of trust to 100% support someone!
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I would do it until they are old enough to go to school and then I would probably go back to being a teacher
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Sure. I have a friend whose wife is a doctor. He keeps his mind active by writing for a couple of websites. When he's not doing that, he's taking care of two small kids. He cooks a lot, does some home schooling-type stuff, and generally keeps the house put together.
I don't think my family would like it too much, if I were to become a house husband. But I think it sounds excellent.
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I would very much like to be a stay at home father. It would come down to finances though and would depend which one of us would be better off taking the maternity leave. As much as I'd like to be at home with my kids, I also want to make sure they're provided for as best as we could afford.
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I would love to be a stay-at-home dad, but if I had to work, I'd understand that too.
I agree! Even if it meant working from as a viable option I would so do that too.
I mean I think my SO and I would decide. But I can't see her as the stay home mom type. I mean if she wants to I support her 100%.
Thanks very much. :) I'm inspired by how many men would be interested in full-time dadship.
I wonder how much it differs by career?