PSA: Noticing some patterns with some of your rants about SOs

I've seen a few of the same kinds of posts over the past few days. SO is yelling, name-calling, preventing you from doing XYZ, pushing/shoving, etc. Even if your SO isn't punching you in the face, this is abuse. The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence has a list of abusive behaviors, some of which I've seen described in posts recently:

• Telling the victim that they can never do anything right
• Showing jealousy of the victim’s family and friends and time spent away
• Accusing the victim of cheating
• Keeping or discouraging the victim from seeing friends or family members
• Embarrassing or shaming the victim with put-downs
• Controlling every penny spent in the household
• Taking the victim’s money or refusing to give them money for expenses
• Looking at or acting in ways that scare the person they are abusing
• Controlling who the victim sees, where they go, or what they do
• Telling the victim that they are a bad parent or threatening to hurt, kill, or take away their children

Guys. Please. If this is you, I wanted to just encourage you to get some help. NCADV's hotline is 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE). Also see: http://www.ncadv.org/need-support/get-help

For the UK: UK Hotline: 0808 2000 247 and the UK Women’s Aid Homepage

For Canada: 1-800-363-9010

For Australia: Life line are reachable on 131114 for domestic abuse. (Life line also offer web chat services for those without access to a land line phone. Womens DV Hotline 1800 007 339 National Sexual assault/Domestic violence counselling line 1800 737 732 Most council catchment areas will have a compiled list of all the available resources in the area. This should include all charity and social services in the area.

A good checklist if you're unsure: http://hopecentermn.org/wp-content/uploads/2010/12/personyoulove.pdf

I hope I'm overreacting, but I don't think I am. Take care of yourselves and your kiddos, remember that you're some tough fatherfuckers to be a mom and deal with this shit, and (most importantly) stay safe out there.

EDIT: Am adding resources for other countries (thanks to Ivysub for the Australia info!). Comment below if you'd like me to add more. Also added the checklist.

Thanks to the mods for adding this to the sidebar, too.