Pansexual girl here, with a mini rant and needing some advice!

Hiya! I hope it's alright I post here, I've been searching for a community where I can be.

So I'm pansexual, basically I like people no matter what's in their pants, or what their gender identity is. I'm also polyamorus, and life partners with a cisgendered straight man.

I get a LOT of flak for this, gay or bisexual women often accuse me of just wanting to try the "other side, which is total BS and makes me really upset. I often feel really excluded among the queer community, and that's not a nice feeling.

I just want to make friends with gals who like gals, because I'm not close with anyone like that, and the only experience I know is my own, which is really awkward and I tried to hide it for years, because I was always told it was just a phase. I'm still trying to accept myself for who I am, and it's really not easy...

So can any of you lovely ladies give me some advice on this matter? I don't know where else to turn, and if I'm not allowed to post here, just tell me and I'll delete my post.

EDIT: You gals are awesome, and I think I'm going to enjoy this community a lot! °˖✧◝(⁰▿⁰)◜✧˖°