[Personal] Has your parent's strict upbringing ruining your romantic relationships?

My parents have brought me up in a strict environment. My whole life they have instilled into me that if I don't get a good job or get a degree in something that matters. I will be a looser and a nobody. They made money out to be everything. And that if you don't follow every thing to the book you will be a nobody. Well I have a job I have money, my own car, place... etc, but I feel miserable. It like the one thing they forgot to teach me was how to have fun. Fun to them is staying inside and watching tv for 4 hours after work. And anything that was remotely fun that could be adventurous my mother would always find ways to discourage me from doing it. They always wanted me to take the safest path in life. I've been in a relationship for the last two years. I love the girl. After a talk that we had I realized that for the last two years I have been pressuring her the same as my parents have with me. And looking back all the problems we have had was when I disagreed with something she wanted to do. Has any else had this kind of issue? How do you deal with it? I really don't want to lose her or my friends that I have done the same with.

Thanks.