Me [19 M] with my Girlfriend [18 F] 1 year, Wants me to be Less Sexual

Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks. We've been dating for a year. We've taken each others virginity. As I got more and more comfortable, I got comfortable talking about sexual things with her. And before we were going out I was really into porn and got into stuff like pup play and humiliation and not just the normal stuff. I guess I've just always been so happy to have someone to finally talk to about my sexual fantasies that I talked about them too much.

She wants to stop having sex because she wants to focus on the more emotional side of the relationship. And she's felt that we've focused too much on the sexual side. Which is my fault. I feel like the more porn I watch, the more I casually talk about sexual things, and we talked about sexual things more than not, and she finally said he doesn't thinks that's normal or healthy. So she wants to take sex off of the table for a while to see how I'll react because she thinks I'm with her just for the sex. Which I'm not.

She gets upset when I tell her that I really want sex. She said it makes her feel used. Not the sex, she enjoys the sex. But when I keep asking her to (which is something I know I can work on) even after she says no I kept pestering her. I just needed to learn how to calm my high sex drive, but now she wants to just stop sex for now.

She also said that she thinks having sex less will make it more special. I tried to explain that that doesn't make sense, but she's stubborn an doesn't care what anyone else thinks on the topic, not even me. I'm not trying to get her to have sex with me. I've already agreed with the sex break. But it bothers me that she thinks that making it less will make it more loving and special and I'm scared for my high sex drive and how I'll cope. I tried to tell her that she probably got that idea from the bad sex we had, and how I didn't always make it special because I was basically too horny to think about that, and I'm the only sex she knows. But she refuses to even consider changing her thinking.

Anyways. Is this normal? Do other couple go through this? And I may need some tips. I've simplified to being a boy and being a man. Boy: is when I got horny and pestered her for sex too much after she said she didn't want to. Man: doesn't expect sex and doesn't annoy her with my erect penis grinding against her leg when were cuddling. Respect her wishes and be gentlemanly while controlling his high sex urges.

I think the goal here is to move up to man status. Any advice appreciated. I'm in the dark here.

Side note: I'm still allowed to grab her and kiss her which I've been doing more frequently because I'm very horny. I can grab her and caress her, I'm fairly certain we can still touch each other down there but honesty I'm scared to try. Just no sex. And I'm assuming less conversation about sexual things. I think she wants to go back to the time where we were still exploring each other sexually where we never talked about it. We just touched each other more and more while we were still virgins. I've quit porn and masturbation for this because I personally feel that those two things have infiltrated our sex lives and made her feel used because of how they effect me. She doesn't agree and kind of wants me to masturbate during the break but no thank you.

tl;dr: Gf wants to take a break from sex because my neediness for it has made her feel used. She also feels our relationship has revolved around sex too much and wants to take sex off the table and focus on our best friend aspect.