I [22F] was recently dumped by my ex [24 M] of a year and am a lost. He still wants to talk. What were some activities or maybe even resources that helped you lose some of the emotional weight of the break up?

So the details of the relationship don't matter outside of the fact that I wasn't expecting it and he moved on quickly to a new girl. Originally, we were no contact but he keeps sending me texts and trying to engage me in fights about our relationship or old inside jokes. I thought I wanted to talk to him, but I still have strong feelings and I don't want to be his friend. I want him to be with me and that ship has sailed. I am thinking of blocking him.

How did you guys move on? How did you become attracted to new people?

He and my friends are telling me to go and hook-up/party with other people. I have never had a real hookup (there was one guy I slept with once after knowing him for 3 months and hanging out 4-5 times). I don't think I can do FWB but at the same time I am sitting here at home stuck on someone that is never going to want me. Part of me doesn't want anyone else.

I have gone out to a club and gone barhopping but it just makes me feel kind of grossed out.

tl;dr: Trying to get over ex that wants to be friends. I'm not attracted to other people but feel like I am wasting my own time. Did hook ups help you guys? Was there anything that made you get out of that funk?

edit: obligatory I have hit the gym, unfriended him on facebook