Just found out my boyfriend cheated on me. I would really appreciate some words of encouragement.

My boyfriend and I are both military. He went home on leave for two weeks in October and got back last week. I received a message on FB earlier tonight telling me to be careful because bf isn't being honest with me. They wouldn't go into detail, but I already knew what they meant because he has cheated before (Flirting with girls. Making plans to go "hang out" when he goes on leave).

Long story short, I confronted him about what he did on leave. He admitted to making out with a girl and nothing more. I asked to see his phone and sure enough, daily messages to girls back in TX saying how much fun he had, "can't wait to see you again ;-) " , good night sexy " and all that jazz.

Tbh, I'm not mad, I'm not sad. I'm just really disappointed. He just kept saying "I'm sorry" "I know I'm a horrible person" and even though he said those things, I felt no remorse from him whatsoever. So I ended it. He can go chase skirts all he wants, I'm not some punk bitch that's going to wait on the sidelines while you try to get your dick wet.

I would really appreciate some words of encouragement and even some stories if you ladies are willing to share. Thank you :-)

Posted Nov 12, 2015, 7:17 AM UTC

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beddahwithcheddah•

I'm not some punk bitch that's going to wait on the sidelines while you try to get your dick wet.

Ah, hallmark's next greeting card!

I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself.

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ardentureOP•

Thank you. I keep reminding myself to stay strong.

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raaaaawwr•

Seriously, good for you for ending it. From my personal experience, even if the person never cheats again, the trust is never the same and the relationship never truly comes back to normal. You're so much better off moving on!

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ardentureOP•

Thank you. He was actually on his second chance with me. There was a girl last year that he was messaging ALL the time (even at 2am), but he swore up and down that she was just a friend. He eventually told her to back off and things were great, then he went on leave and decided it would be ok to cheat on me. Tbh, I'm better off without him.

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raaaaawwr•

Oh believe me, I've been there! It's so great that you've realized you're better off without him!!

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Anon1369•

You're worth more than him. You'll find a man instead of a boy such as him.

Also, thanks for your service!

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ardentureOP•

You're absolutely right! I keep getting in relationships with boys and getting hurt, but not anymore. I'm not going to allow anyone to hurt me anymore.

Also, thank you for your support :)

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not_just_amwac•

Hun, with the last sentence you wrote before asking for support: You've fucking got this. :)

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ardentureOP•

Haha thank you. Now I keep going from mad to sad to numb again and I that was me being mad :-P

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