"Just have your wife send a picture"
My husband's boss said this to him tonight. He's a new boss, and said some shit initially about importance of family, blah blah blah. Well I guess that was all bullshit. Now tonight he asked my husband and another guy to stay late to work on something and my husband was like OK, but I need to leave at X time so I can see my daughter before she goes to sleep. And the guy says this shit!
FIRST of all, why the fuck does he assume that my husband doesn't want to actually, you know, spend time with his kid for some small portion of the day? SECOND, the guy just assumes that dear old wifey will handle everything because what the fuck else do I have to do other than handle everything child related by myself, right? ALSO what about the child in this scenario who just has to not see her dad for a day because daddy's boss decides to arbitrarily work late?
I know shit like this is normal now, but it still sucks.
Posted Nov 19, 2015, 12:47 AM UTC
Comments like that just are not normal.. Well they are in some industries (hubs is in construction and it is common there. They also look at him funny when he says he actually likes to spend time with his wife) But overtime, staying late, might be common that kind of bullshitted nonsense is not.
New boss must be one of those "breeder haters" we see on other subs all the time.
Or VERY old-fashioned. Not just the "why do you give a shit about physically being with your child?" but also the assumption that his wife is even at home. She could work a job with late hours, you know? But guys that high up on the ladder tend to be "good old boys" who fit the old male stereotype.
My husband's former boss is like this. When he put in his notice before kiddo was born (since he was going to be a SAHD), his boss, a nasty old man, scoffed, insinuated that my husband is a wimp, and remarked that he went back to work the day after his kid was born.
I did note that he is not currently married and I had heard nothing about his children before this interaction.
My old boss was like this, and she's a woman! When I got pregnant she bragged about how she only took 3 weeks maternity leave...
They make me rage so hard.....I'm not even working yet...
Yep, I think definitely more of an out-of-touch old guy than anything.
That is a very good point. Sometimes I just make assumptions that they remember from a previous conversation or something.