After almost two years, I'm requesting a new badge.
Started a month ago when I found out about my cheating wife. I'm ashamed and humiliated, both because of the cheating and the smoking. Time to start healing myself and I can't do that as a smoker. Thanks in advance for any words of wisdom.
Posted Feb 11, 2016, 2:55 PM UTC
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Well, just wow good job.
I dont have any words of wisdom, but maybe you do for other people who struggle to stop even when everything is just fine.
That's an interesting way to put it! I had t considered that it'd be harder to quit because of the cheating. Indeed, I started after learning of it - I was pitying and blaming myself for her transgressions. I could even say that I was smoking to, in some silly way, get back at her. This is of course ridiculous. I'm only hurting myself and my relationship with my kids.
The key is support. I've reached out to people and been honest (discretion is advised when dealing with infidelity). Hearing about others' experiences, sometimes worse, sometimes not, really makes a difference and let's you deal with your grief with some perspective.
I'm not done, not as a man, a lover, a father, and most certainly not as a non-smoker.
Thanks for your question.
No problem :)
I had "similar" experience year ago, when i broke up, but it wasnt that harsh because we were just dating few months. I was sad and angry as hell, i thought of smoking more, but i sort of used my anger to stop and become better version of me. It lasted for 6 months which was my first serious attempt. 8 months passed now and i believe im stronger and with more experience, it will be much easier and pass quicker than before...
Well, i wish you happy journey onwards :) and good luck and thank you for a gold reddit! (my first ever)