Cauliflower Ear question

Hi guys I have been rolling for 6 months and recently my ear hurt. Then a couple of days later a lot of liquid filled to the area and I got cauliflower ear. I got it drained and it hurt extremely badly and I also got it bolstered so the area does not fill up again. I bought some headgear but have a question as I cannot get a definitive answer. Do you need to constantly wear headgear at all times or only if your ear starts to hurt? If you ear starts to hurt and you wear headgear or take a break from bjj does that guarentee you will not get it. Or once you ear starts to hurt it does not matter if you have headgear take a break or whatever the liquid will come? I heard that it is 2 stages. Once your ear hurts if you keep rolling then the cartlidge breaks further and then liquid comes. What is the real answer. I love bjj so much and is my passion and now I feel like I have to stop because it is too overwhelming. I am not interested in the be a man or have your cauliflower ears as a trophy. I am sorry but I do not like them. For the past week I have not been able to sleep on one side. IT SUCKS. I will try to post a pic

Thanks guys!