UPDATE: Me a [25F] med student with my non-medical BF [26M] who won't stop asking questions

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HOLY JEEPERS that escalated quickly!!!

I've never broken up with anyone before. I've been dumped or parted ways mutually but ... I summoned up all my courage and called BF to meet up.

To those of you who warned me to be prepared for gaslighting...you were spot-on. Thank you for the warning.

I told him I was tired of being pimped at home, tired of arguing about whether it was appropriate for him to pimp me at home, and that I'd spent far too much time fighting him over the issue. I told him while the questions were annoying as all hell, the fact that I'd repeatedly explained to him that it was stressful for me yet he continually disregarded that and tried to shame me into doubting myself was the bigger problem, and that his lack of respect for my comfort was a dealbreaker.

He informed me that:

1. He knew this was coming because I've always been an intellectual snob and his family had warned him about me from day 1.

2. He'd been wanting to dump me for months but he knew I needed his support throughout med school so he couldn't leave. Because he's a good guy and he would have felt so bad abandoning me.

3. Everyone in medicine either suffers from narcissism, autism, or OCD, so he's glad he doesn't have to interact with me or any of my friends anymore.

4. Law school is harder than medical school, lawyers are smarter than doctors, and he will always be needed but I'll be replaced soon by Watson.

5. He wishes me luck dying alone and becoming one of those sad lonely old lady doctors who has to resort to banging my residents for sexual relief.

My mind is fucking blown. I went home and cried and threw up. What the fuck piece of shit did I fall in love with???? I've never seen that side of him. I'd seen anger but not .... that. I don't know guys. I'm overwhelmed. I really thought when I posted the original question that there'd be more of a debate. Like expected some people to say oh he's just curious it's innocent, and expected to find some people be like tell this dude to STFU. I was really blown away by all of you being able to identify and verbalize and validate what had been feeling so goddamn confusing and shitty over here.

Hasn't been the most productive study day, but I'm going to go try and get some work done and at least enjoy the peace and quiet.

tl;dr: Bf way more insecure than I imagined possible. Peaced out. THX REDDIT <3 <3 <3