Feeling frustrated-like the only way to get slip, shine, and detangling is to use products with unsafe ingredients

For instance, I've been trying to find shampoo and conditioner forever and have had little luck. Every time I get excited about the naturalness of one product or the results of another, it ends up being that the one is unsatisfactory and the other has unsafe ingredients.

The most recent case is with alaffia. It looks amazing, and I was almost ready to buy it when I read reviews on naturally curly saying that it is stripping, and you'll need another shampoo if you're looking for shine, detangling, and slip. But that's why I was looking for new shampoo and conditioner in the first place!

I use pure castile soap for body wash and was using it for shampoo but it left my hair in a tangled knotted mess, even though it looked pretty good and curly.

TL;DR does anyone have recommendations for products that can do it all, in a safe natural way? I don't mean like a shampoo conditioner in one

edit: Oh and a product that also doesn't weight hair down, along with the slip, shine, detangling?