Need help/advice/reassurance; me (28F) with a guy (31M) I met online who's overseas
Hi fellow redditors. First up, I'm feeling really stupid and conflicted about my feelings. Give me your honest feedback. Met a guy through a dating app ~2 weeks ago. He's halfway around the world from me, but moving to my city in a few months. When he disclosed his location (VERY early on in our conversation), I was a bit pissed because - why would I bother with this until he's in my city. However, I continued the conversation to be polite, and now we have been texting daily for 2 weeks, sending photos, we've had a phone call, and now I have crazy feelings for him. Like, can't stop thinking of him. Can't think how I'll be able to wait a few months for him to arrive. Going mad with time zones waiting til he's awake to hear from him, etc. Exchanging terms of endearment etc.
I feel so stupid about this, because I've heard the stories about meeting people online/overseas. I heard about people being scammed, and I always thought they must be nuts to actually think they could be in love with these scammers. For his part, he's done nothing dodgy. Never asked for anything etc. Just been nice, friendly, slightly flirty.
So I am needing your help and advice - what do I do? Am I completely bananas? Should I try and feel better about this? Should I cut contact until he's here? Has anyone else been in a similar scenario, and if so, how do you prolong this sort of relationship when there's no physical contact?
TL;DR: Falling for a guy online halfway around the world. Conflicted by my feelings and don't know what to do
Posted Feb 25, 2016, 12:38 AM UTC