[trigger warning] Wow (Flying Monkey/Enabler)

So I moved out of the mentally abusive home of my N grandmother and enabler grandfather (who raised me) and got a job at last without N grandmother interfering and ruining it. This I am happy about, what I'm going to say next I am furious about.

I have pet rats....where I'm at (birthmother's place) they can't be brought here due to space limitation and pet cats, so I have to think of a solution. Ngrandmother doesn't want to give me time to plan and think about, she wants to call and complain about it to my birthmother. My N grandmother basically rushed me to get out of the house because she was tired of little petty things I was doing such as wearing headphones yes, she was angry at my choice to respect others while listening to things on my phone by wearing headphones! However this is not just about her and her stupid little things, it's about my enabler/flying monkey grandfather too!

I did not know what to label him until now and it's finally obvious. So I'm gone, I'm not treating my grandmother like shit as she loves to put it, but since she's mad at me she gets grandfather to call me. How do I know she did it? It's funny he never put his nose into this shit until now, when she's mad and bitching about stuff. First he tells me that he is calling of his own will, and I think to myself yeah I bet you are. He goes on and on about what I'm going to do with the rats and I tell him the exact same stuff I told my Ngrandmother. Right now, I DON'T KNOW what I'm going to do. Then out of the ass of space itself he suddenly asks,

'Do you hate your grandmother?'

I am instantly furious and so I ask him, 'Why are you asking that all of a sudden?' 'I've been thinking about it, why?' 'Because it's funny you don't care anything about it until now all of a sudden. Plus you don't know all of the story.'

'I know more than you think I do.' yeah I bet. So he goes on how I'm lying and this bullshit needs to stop because I'm lying about them and he knows some of it is true and some of it is not, but I of course, deserve the blame. He also tells me he commends me for getting a job, but adds, 'You still have a long way to go though. A long, long way.' we talk a bit longer, and I never answer his initial question and he finally hangs up.

One, thank you for making me feel like shit and blaming me for everything. Thank you for lying that you know the story, thank you for making me go into a panic attack and triggering me because you are talking like Ngrandmother's personal parrot.

I already feel bad enough being in my 20's and just now getting a job ALL BECAUSE of the control I was forced to go through by my Ngrandmother. GC was fine to get a night job and such at 16-18+, but me!? I had to pick places my Ngrandmother wanted me to work at, I had to choose times she wanted, I could only accept day shifts, and I was lied to numerous times that places were not hiring when they were a place I wanted to work at! Then in the end I couldn't even work at the places she picked because she didn't want to be alone at the house!

So yes, THANK YOU for reminding me how SHIT I am, I appreciate being told that and BLAMED for things I could not control!

Fuck you.

Atop that my Ngrandmother is putting on a happy mask and acting like she is so excited and happy for me yet she turns around and tells me+ my birthmother the opposite things including that I treat her like shit.