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Found a catch, but she's polyamorous. Would anyone else consider Polyamory?

Hey guys. I have a bit of a pickle. I met a really lovely woman on Tinder, her profile said she was polyamorous and in an open relationship but I didn't think on it too much as the time as I just wanted to get laid.

Fast forward a bit, we have now been seeing each other once or twice a week for the past 2 months. I really enjoy her company, and says she has been enjoying herself too. Recently she asked if I would ever consider her lifestyle, and if polyamory is something I would consider. I told her I needed some time to think on it and here I am. I feel very wishy washy about this, when I'm with her or talking to her I sometimes feel like I could be okay with this. Other times I feel gutted knowing it could never be monogamous. She's so smart and beautiful so I know I'm not always thinking straight when it comes to her.

Basically, I've enjoyed myself immensely with her. But I'm not 100% knowing she sees others and is married. I respect her for going for what she enjoys and I wouldn't change that, but I don't feel entirely okay with the thought of dating multiple people. I think I'm starting to catch deeper feels and I don't want to dig myself a hole to climb out of either. I've still been chatting to other girls and going on a few dates here and there but she is the main person I've been seeing. I don't know if I could still go on dates if she was my girlfriend.

I really enjoy being with her, but I am yet to meet her husband and boyfriend because I am hesitant. I know the choice ultimately lies on me but I'd love some input from you lads and anyone who has experienced this before. I don't want to end up hurt, and while I'd love to just give it a try I am afraid it won't end well for me. If it has the potential to ultimately work out I would give it a go, but I'm really inexperienced when it comes to this topic. Really sorry if this post is a mess, I'm typing it from my phone.

Thanks!

Posted Feb 25, 2016, 1:29 AM UTC

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