I (22F) am so sexually frustrated, because my boyfriend (23M) of 6 years never wants to have sex.

I made this account just to post this, my boyfriend knows my main account and I don't have anyone I feel comfortable discussing this with. I want to start by saying I love my boyfriend very much and I want to spend the rest of my life with him, but I'm starting to wonder if being with him is worth basically giving up sexual pleasure.

When we first got together we couldn't keep our hand off of each other, our sex life was amazing. We were super open about our kinks and things we wanted to try. There was alot of foreplay(which is my favorite part since he really knows what he's doing) and he even gave me my first orgasm from penetration. Basically I'm saying it wasn't always like this.

I know that in all relationships the "honeymoon" phase ends, but I'm starting to wonder if there is another reason. When it comes to sex I like when he initiates and is dominate, but we would change it up all the time. He has not even attempted any sexual contact with me in the past 3 months, and the last 2 times I have tried (2 weeks ago and then again a few nights ago) he told me he had a headache both times.

Although that really bothered me, what really shattered my confidence was that after rejecting my attempt 2 weeks ago he waited until he thought I was sleeping then went into the other room and masterbated. I know this because I got up to see if he was ok and when I got close to the closed door I could hear the porn he was watching. Before this incident I thought that maybe it was a hormone issue (low levels of testosterone in men can severely decrease sex drive), but now I know this isn't the issue. He would rather masterbate than be intimate with me.

He has no idea that I know, but I've felt like shit about myself since. I've tried to talk to him about it a few times, but he always says he has no idea what I mean and of course he enjoys sleeping with me.

I love him and I know he loves me, but if things don't change I don't think I can spend the rest of my life taking care of my own needs. Not only have I attempted to talk to him, I've even bought the sexiest lingerie I could find and put it on before getting in bed. Once in bed I began kissing his neck and rubbing his thigh, he didnt even acknowledge me.

I love him so much that I want to try everything possible to save our relationship. I was hoping for some suggestions, because at this point I don't know what else to do.

tl;dr: My boyfriend of 6 years would rather masterbate than have sex with me. I love him and want to try everything to fix this before it ruins our relationship.