Left with everything else she didn't want.

Im going to try and get this out of my system since I am completely and utterly alone.

I moved my family wife (27, married to me 27 for 8 years) and two children (2/5) to another state 1,000 miles away from home in pursuit of a new career in which I nearly 4x my income. Before the move finances seemed to be our main point of contention. The new job was extremely time consuming and stressful. The cost of living was so high in the immediate area we decided to live about 2 hours away from my work. I commuted back and forth 5 days a week for a year. I was dead set on making my career work and making my family happy or so I thought. I found out that she was chatting with another man via text and it all came crashing down. He text were Romantic and she denied it until she literally couldn't anymore. She came clean that the business trip she was planning to go on was paid for by him to meet up. I was crushed but wanted to make things work.

I'll fast forward a bit and give you the highlights. •counseling •new job schedule stay at work 8 days off 6 •moved farther from work

So I hear from a friend at work that she is currently packing up my house. I call her and we argue for 2 days straight me begging her to stay and we can work on it. She says that she doesn't want to make that decision and that she needs to go to her sisters house to decide if she wants to work on our marriage or call it quits.

She takes the kids and leaves. So in an attempt to keep myself together I go to visit my parents. I find out that she has another cellphone and that she has still been talking to this guy for 8 months. Also he lives 20 min from her sisters house.

Crushed.

She sends me legal separation papers and claims its for the custody side of it. She also has continued to deny contact with the guy. I was so close to signing the custody papers. Just trying to make her happy so she would come back to me.

She continues to say she hasn't decided if she is coming back. We talk on the phone, well mostly I talk she listens. If I bring up anything about what she is doing or if she has decided it turns ugly.

I had to return to work without her or my children. I have taken time to talk to lawyers in both states and have currently hired one where she is to get the custody case throw out based on jurisdiction. She filed after only being there 2 weeks. If I had signed those papers my kids would have been stuck far far away from me. I have all of the papers for a DIY ready I'm just waiting for my off days so I can file. Hopefully my kids will be coming back to the state we lived in.

She has no income. I heard her "friend" was giving her money but I cannot confirm that. She cannot afford another lawyer after she paid for the separation.

I'm so lost do I believe her about truly not knowing what she wants? Am I getting played? Is she with this other guy? Will I be able to see my kids? If I see this other guy can I control myself? If she tells me she wants to come back can I forgive her?

Help I'm so scatter brained I can hardly write a coherent post.