My 3 year old son has been taken from me by his mother, and I haven't seen him or her in 2+ months :(

First , thanks so much for reading my post.

The story is kind of long, so I won't tell it all, and I don't really want to share every last detail on the public forum.

About a week over two months ago, my now ex and I got into a fight, and I wound up getting arrested and in legal trouble all for the first time ever in my life. There were no real injuries, and I know I've made mistakes, but she did too, and she also had hit me. Part of this disaster, was a no contact (restraining order) on my ex so that I couldn't contact her, but she could still contact me, and I had a right to see my child, but only if she made him available.

Well, my ex took the bad situation, and made it a lot worse. Instead of trying to lift the no contact order, and reduce the punishment, and try to give me a chance to work things out, she told the state attorney to throw the book at me. Then, she lied to family and the visitation centers, and said she would let me see my son, and she never once did. Then , to make it all the worse, she moved to a few places with my son in tow, and then left the state without telling anyone where she was taking my son. Unfortunately, we are not married, and I grew up in a two parent house, and was very naive about all this family law stuff. My ex also had threatened to leave with my son "somewhere", but I didn't take her threats that seriously, even though we fought about it.

It all has costed me thousands in legal bills, super stress, immense depression, and I've had to seek financial help and other from my parents for the first time in many years. Through a lucky investigative lead, we were able to at least temporarily locate the ex, and may have affected service of family documents, and have started another court case.

The problem is I've known her, and we've been together for about 20 years. I know why she's mad and me and so on, and I have plenty of reasons to be upset with her, but I didn't even think she was capable of doing what she's doing now. So, that kind of shock and wonder about why she's doing this , or for how long she plans on keeping it up, makes me all the more sick and upset about it.

What she's done recently and with my son, is very frightening, and because of us not being married, she's got a lot of "default rights" which have allowed her to do these horrible things - and the worse of that is taking my son from me.

As you can see my struggle to get my son has been expensive and difficult at best, and I cry every day about it, because I don't know if me and my attorneys will be successful. I've been assured by people that I will see my son, and my ex will someday pay for what she's done, and may not even get much custody. However, I've also been attacked by people with agendas, and that namely for my arrest, etc.

The ex has been staying with family/friends as far as we know, and I just can't believe how horrible these people are. They've taken her in, and even tried to help her avoid service of process for the family case.

With all the expenses, and my bad financial situation, I've had to take a sort of dead end job for money. It pays fairly well, but it's also stressful, because I have to drive my own vehicle a lot, and it's hard to stop thinking about my son and the situation at work. I also only sleep about every other day, because I work very late, and when I get home, I'm so lonely feeling and stressed, and I'm always researching and trying to figure out my chances of seeing my son. If all that weren't bad enough, I have a full 6 months+ of expenses, classes, probation, etc. because of the ex talking to the state's attorney to keep me spinning in circles.

Well it looks like the story ran very long anyway, so thanks again so much for reading it. I am not even sure what I want or need right now, other than to see my son again. On the internet, it seems like women have been the most against me, but others also the most for me , and virtually every woman (offline) including my mother thinks the ex taking my son is just atrocious. I bring that up, because I'm really upset that my ex is willing to ruin my son's life and upbringing , and keep him from his father. I know it's not likely, but I've been wanting a new mate lately, and one that will love my son, because we are never getting back together, and I think my ex doesn't care about my son, is mentally deranged, or both. She has been abandoned in her life by her bio father, and a step dad, and IMO she's repeating history, or trying to now with my son. Also , my son is the cutest boy you've ever seen. You wouldn't believe it. I'm so afraid for him and this. I'm crying as I am writing this.

It's also making my mother and father very sick, and it's cost them money to help me in the legal battle.

Thanks for any help or support.