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bcakes

Why isn't everyone just more excited to take my money!? [vent]

Contacted bus company for wedding shuttle: yes we're available! Here's a better deal than the one you saw online! Me: Great, here's your contract back and info for you to take the deposit!

1 week later me, email: hi, just wanted to make sure you received that contract as I did an online fax, contract is good? Deposit? There was a 10 day holding?

NOTHING
call 3 days later to confirm
Bus company: Oh yeah, we got it. It's great. We haven't run your card yet. Yeah, Sally? We running cards today? Ok, it should come out today.

Me: Thanks great, phew.

That was in MARCH. The money was never taken, so I guess I'm hoping our contract is still good and we'll just pay in full???

Everyone one else since then has been mailed a check directly from my bank so that the money disappears immediately from my account!

That and now 4 alterations places that haven't got back to me! Why? I JUST WANT TO THROW MONEY AT YOU AND HAVE A DRESS THE RIGHT LENGTH.

And the friend we asked and agreed to be a photographer, who is a professional photographer, and who I asked, how much can we pay you?? NOTHING NO RESPONSE AND IT'S FREAKING ME OUT AND FIANCE IS LIKE IT'S FINE HE'S AN ARTIST HE'LL GET BACK TO US.

Ok. I'm fine. Tomorrow I'm buying stamps for the invites and I can control that and will pay and it will be so soothing to stamp things and seal envelopes. hushhhhhhh.

Posted Jun 7, 2016, 3:58 AM UTC

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spockgiirlAug 21, 2017 Grand Teton Nat'l Park•

Preach! I'm found a 7 room condo to fit several family members back in March. It took me a month to get a contract. They literally just ran my card for the deposit yesterday. It's bananas.

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chipsnsalsa13•

Story of my life. When I get past the fact that they want my arms, legs, and first born child they won't take or return my phone calls. Grr. I called 7 videographers last week that were on my wedding planner's recommended list. 7!! I have heard back from 1 and it turns out their style isn't what I want.

I'm beginning to see why bridezilla was coined. I have never in my life felt like going so berserk sometimes.

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rockandloveIndianapolis Zoo 6/11/16•

Our wedding is Saturday and the caterer won't take our final payment...I actually fired a florist for this reason.

So frustrating!

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cherrycherie6910.1.2016 Omaha •

"Take my money or I'll fire you!!" Is actually quite funny to me this morning.

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boobookeyz6.3.17 | Baltimore•

It's a little hard to do a price comparison for caterers when literally only one will respond to you!! So I guess that one's my caterer??

Also my venue hasn't given me a receipt for the security deposit yet. Like...you made me get a cashier's check for this. You have it in your possession. Just cash it!!

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inelegantwench•

Yes!!!!! This happened so often to me with wedding planning. It's their job. You want to give them money. Why don't they just take the money?!?!?! My cake lady was the worst for this - and she was a self employed solo lady, so she must have needed the custom!

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wedding4807/03/16 MA•

When you go buy the stamps bring at least one complete invitation suite with you for them to weigh! Anything over 1 oz is .68 and not the regular .47 Forever Stamps. I had my fiance do this and they weighed in right around .9oz BUT he forgot one part of the invitation when he brought them in. With that one added piece it pushed it over 1oz and we ended up having .47 and .21 stamps on all the invites. I almost liked it better because we had floral and penguin stamps - little dudes in tuxedos! I thought it was cute, just inconvenient.

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bcakesOP9.3.16 Connecticut•

Yes! I actually did this last week because I was in such a "I need to do SOMETHING" mode. The perks of having a weekday day off, just checking out the post office!

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blackbirdblue10/1/2016 | Kansas City•

At least the post office is happy (in a gumbily postal worker kinda way) to take your money.

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cherrycherie6910.1.2016 Omaha •

When I dropped off my STDs at the post office, the guy behind the counter asked me if we were having plated or buffet, and what time they should show up. I was really flustered before I realized he was joking! They aren't all grumpy!

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blackbirdblue10/1/2016 | Kansas City•

Haha, that's great. I guess I just have a terrible habit of sliding into the post office about 15 minutes before they close.

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VesbooMarch 11 2017 - Australia•

Uggggh yeah I've had this problem booking our marquee. Great price and the reviews I've found are all positive but... I send an email, it took days to get back to me to me with a brief email to confirm they were available and that was it. Send another email and yes, they had booked us in, but she didn't answer the other questions I'd asked, so another email sent and I'm still waiting. Gah. How do people run a business like this?!

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rmric0New England (MA & RI mostly) | photographer•

"And the friend we asked and agreed to be a photographer, who is a professional photographer, and who I asked, how much can we pay you??"

In fairness, this one is fraught with opportunities for potential awkwardness - like you want to do something nice for your friends, but you are also a professional. You are at a party (likely with more of your friends, who are drinking and dancing) and you feel obligated to be professional. And then setting the right tone and expectations so taht, in case something does go wrong, it turns out all right.

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bcakesOP9.3.16 Connecticut•

It is potentially awkward! He's knows a few of the friends, but not many- we met him when we all ran with a different friend crowd and he's been one of the few we've kept in touch with. We also asked for just ceremony coverage and the special dances after dinner, so the hope is he gets to sit and enjoy himself with his girlfriend at dinner and then enjoy the party after! He is completely excused from being a professional once the dancing starts :) I also know his specialty is more candid action photos so I wouldn't be surprised if he kept his camera on the dance floor. But man, tell me how much so we can budget it in! He better not even TRY to gift it, either! Wedding photography is TOO HARD to work for free!

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omgitskedwardsAugust 20, 2017 | Boston, MA•

Um. Tell me about it. I have a list of six caterers to choose from for my venue, I've contacted all of them and heard back from two. One we scheduled a consult with, one we had an email exchange about our interest then radio silence, the rest ghosted me.

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cherrycherie6910.1.2016 Omaha •

My venue took 2 months to cash our deposit! I was freaking out! Not used to having to keep that much money in my account. I was starting to think that they might just wait until the month of the wedding. It caused me a lot of stress.

I just finished addressing my last invite! (Barring any new people that pop up out of the woodwork...) and it's so exciting! But, I probably shouldn't mail them until July.

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bcakesOP9.3.16 Connecticut•

that's the exact problem, how long do I keep an extra $200 non spendable money in my account?? I've already mistakenly spent it twice and had to put it back in with the dread of, THIS IS WHEN THEY'LL TAKE IT because I don't have it in there!

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Heytheretigers•

Ugh I know. My favourite was the venue I emailed a query to. They responded two weeks later 'saying hi, have you had a chance to consider our venue?'. I replied saying you never replied to my original email, but this is what I'm looking for is it possible and how much would it be? They replied saying 'oh we're so sorry we will send you a quote right away'. Yeah they never responded. So irritating.

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