Date yesterday. I'm the first guy she's ever kissed.

Story

We matched on Tinder a week ago.

She lives a 2.5h drive away, is new to the area, doesn't speak the language (German) well enough yet (but does speak English), and was using the app to potentially make new friends. I let her know I wasn't looking for merely friendship here, but not for just a fling either. We had good conversational chemistry in text form, exchanged numbers shorty after, but because of the distance, I waited a few days to ask her out, to get a better idea of whether we'd get along. I like driving, but it's a bit of a way for just a short coffee date.

We met yesterday afternoon and I first thought she regretted her decision. She had warned me beforehand that she's very shy, so I powered though the awkwardness, hoping her quiet, distanced demeanor was just down to shyness. I was right.

We went for a short walk, followed by a surprise hike uphill to see a fortress ruin. We didn't talk a lot, but when we did the conversation was pleasant and interesting, and we enjoyed being around each other, so most of the awkwardness went away. Things also progressed physically.

I led the way and took her hand when we went up a narrow, dark staircase (up the fortress tower) and after that, we held hands pretty much the whole way back to town and for all the strolls that followed. (Still not talking much). A bit later, we sat on the same side of the table for dinner, legs resting comfortably against each other.

About six hours into the date, we settled on a park bench and watched the stars. She leaned into me and cuddling ensued.

It got a bit awkward again when she shut down my attempt to kiss her. She didn't break contact, but got visibly anxious. I wasn't sure how to proceed, because of these very mixed signals (she was still leaning into me, put her head on my shoulder and held my hand.)

She finally told me she's never kissed anyone before (or done more), and she was afraid she would be bad at it. I tried to reassure her, while worrying about feeling like I talked her into it, or pressured her.

Anyway, we did eventually kiss. The first one was a bit awkward and short, after which she immediately buried her face in my chest and we just hugged each other tightly for a while. I could hear her sniffing and I think she cried a little, but by the expression on her face when she looked up, I'm almost certain it wasn't out of regret.

We stayed there for about an hour, things getting better and better, then took one last stroll back to the car. On the way, we made plans to see each other again next weekend.

I dropped her off at the end of this eight hour date, and the kiss goodbye was already really good. I drove home happy.

We texted some more today, confirmed the second date, and just talked.

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Additional Details/Thoughts:

I really like being around her, even if we don't talk much. I definitely felt a lot of chemistry, otherwise I wouldn't have tried to kiss her. You guys know I catch feels quickly, so this doesn't carry that much weight...

I'm not sure about long term compatibility though, for a lack of talking. I hope she opens up a bit if we're gonna continue seeing each other.

She might move (much) farther away sometime next year. Nothing's set in stone, but it's unlikely she'll stay there (or close) for years to come.

I've been trying not to overthink the future too much, and living more in the moment. With that in mind I'd like to keep seeing her regardless.

She seems to really want to see me again, but she's given me plenty of outs. She's very insecure and seemed genuinely surprised someone would like her that way.

I don't have a problem with her inexperience and I'm fine with taking things very slowly. After all, it's been a while for me and I'm not exactly the most experienced guy either.

I am worried about how vulnerable she seems though. The last thing I wanna do is hurt her.

EDIT: Shes 23, by the way, and there are no religious/moral reasons.

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I don't think I have a specific question, but I wanted to share and I'm curious what you guys think.