Me (20m) and my girlfriend (20f) have been dating for over a year and haven't had sex. Am I a dick for wanting to break up with her over it?
I just want to apologize in advance if this post devolves into incoherent rambling.
Ok, so my girlfriend and I have been going out for over a year. Our relationship is really great, I love her to pieces. The problem is, over the past year and handful of months, we haven't had sex. We have never done anything remotely sexual except make out. I have never even seen her naked.
I have talked to her about this before. She told me that she just doesn't have any sexual drive at all. And that's fine and all, it's just that I have an incredibly high sex drive. Not to play into some douchey college stereotype but... I'm young, you know? I want to be having fun crazy sex with someone I love. And I don't get anything intimate from her. I absolutely don't blame her, it's not like she asked to have no libido or anything, but the problem is still there.
What makes it worse is I just transferred schools, so now we're doing long distance, which I'm really not sure is a good idea. It kind of feels like I've put on a metaphorical chastity belt.
What do I do, Reddit? I love this girl, but I've talked with her about this a couple time and she doesn't think it's a big deal. It's absolutely a big deal to me, but she doesn't seem to see that. It's not really even about sex anymore, it's about making love, being physically intimate with this girl I'm in love with and deepening our relationship. But it just doesn't happen, and it kind of feels like our relationship has just been stagnant. Am I in the wrong for wanting to break up for this reason?
tldr: girlfriend has no sex drive/libido, doesn't think it's a big deal. We haven't done anything remotely sexual in the year we've been together, pretty sure I'm sexually frustrated. I still love her, but I want to break up with her over this.
Posted Aug 29, 2016, 11:46 PM UTC · edited