Product advice for thick, unruly hair?

I have thick, heavy, pretty dry, shoulder length (naturally dirty blonde) hair. I'm looking for a product I can use before blow-drying to help with flyaways/new growth/general smoothness. I always have sticky-outies.

And I think this is a lost cause, but: I'd like to be able to air dry my hair sometimes, but I feel like if I do, I have to ponytail it until the next time I can blow dry it. When I air dry, my hair flips out at the ends (but only on one side!) and it's really weird looking. I don't think there's anything I can do about this :( and it sucks because my hair is super thick, it takes forever to dry ...