Ladies...teach me how to date.

I've never been able to date ... it always turns into a relationship. I'm still relatively a baby dyke- as I've been in 3 semi serious/long relationship- with the last one ending in a shit fire (with her cheating on me with multiple men.. long story). So I've been single for the last two years. I'm turning 30 this year and have only been dating women the last 4. The few women I've met here and there never last. The few dates I've been on never turned into 2nd dates - mostly because he chemistry just wasn't there for me. The last girl I met and went on a couple dates brought the Uhaul the 3rd date. I wasn't having it.

I would like to get to know more ladies... get out of my comfort zone of online dating and meet real girls in real life. The hookup scene is not my thing. I'm going to be living in California for the next 3 months and want to take full advantage of it. Help me out ladies.