Question for Doms: How do you feel about cunnilingus? I love my Dom but I miss being on the receiving end of oral.
I [27F] have been in a relationship with my Dom [33M] for about 7 months now. All of my previous relationships or sexual partners were pretty vanilla, so finally being with a Dom is a dream come true. On top of it being sexually fulfilling, we are very in love with one another. I can picture myself marrying this man. (In fact, we recently went out shopping and casually looked at rings, so things could be moving in that direction in the near future...)
I am very satisfied with our sex life, save for one thing. He has never performed oral sex on me and I have to admit that it bothers me slightly.
Two of the men I slept with previously loved going down on me. It made me feel so desired and also vulnerable, because the most intimate part of you is being given careful attention. Being with men who seemed to genuinely LOVE giving oral was very affirming. (And it feels great!)
This has caused me to second-guess aspects of my current relationship. Is my Dom really attracted to my pussy? Does the look, smell, or taste turn him off? The lack of oral has caused some minor insecurity.
In terms of hair and hygiene: I've taken great care to stay completely bare, getting Brazilian waxes for a while and even undergoing laser hair removal for the past year. I also shower daily and eat a healthy diet to minimize any strong taste, so I don't think he is avoiding it because of an unusual odor, taste, or hair.
Before everyone responds with "Just communicate!" let me express my reservations about bringing this up: I do not want to top from the bottom. Serving him as he sees fit is the most sexually fulfilling part of our relationship. I do not want him to perform oral sex if he truly has no desire to do so. I cringe at the thought of him doing it out of a feeling of obligation. I get the most pleasure out of pleasing him. This is just a small sliver of discontentment. I would rather live without cunnilingus than give up our dynamic or relationship.
I primarily want to know whether this is a more universal Dom thing or something specific to him.
I'm open to advice, but I'd mostly like to hear what other Doms and subs think about cunnilingus. Do you see it as a primarily submissive act? Doms, do you have any desire to eat out your sub? Subs, do any of you miss it or does it ruin the dynamic for you?
EDIT: a few typos
Posted Feb 16, 2017, 10:38 PM UTC · edited