(Genuine, not trolling) Can I be a feminist if I *knowingling* take advantage of gender bias?

I don't know how to work this. I have a 6+ year account but don't feel comfortable using it. I am a female and I use my femine "wiles" whenever I can. I have got out of speeding tickets, had meals and drinks paid for, doors opened and Starbucks charged to accounts.

I want to be a feminist, but can I if I knowingly play to my attractive advantage?

Is it more "feminist" to accept "warning" ticket for a traffic violation when I know it's because I'm small and female and don't want to pay it? Or to accept open doors, drinks and meals because we allow women this?

I am so confused!