He doesn't even try

I've been married for a year. Before getting married my husband sent me an email describing his need for regular sex. He will not have another dead bedroom. It was kind of rude and totally unnecessary. We rarely went a day without sex. I love it. I loved sex with him. It used to be amazing.

1 year later and he has very little drive, he never innatiates. I've asked him to be more dominate, initiate, throw me down, I even shared my very hidden rape fantasy which he refuses to partake in.

I'm so crushed. How do I tell him for the thousandth time that I need to be needed. Before I met him I was a cam girl. I thrive on the attention. I quit because it made him jealous. Now he's okay with it, but on his terms...which ultimately means he's not okay with it. I love him. I want this to work. I just can't handle feeling so unwanted. He's so passionless, it's killing me. Do I tell him, again, that my needs aren't met? Do I give up and accept this lame excuse for a sex life? Or do I move on? Any advice would be great.