Baby steps

So, for close to a year now I think, I've been playing around with chastity cages. Until a few months ago totally solo without the wife being aware or involved. I broke the ice one night a few months ago finally to see what she thought. Im not for total submission, I'm more of a switch. She isn't really submissive or dominant but she definitely likes more kink then just vanilla. Like she loves anal and even speaking when we can get the opportunity to be that noisy. She likes her hands held down while I touch her and is working up the courage to try actuall restraints. I have a couple cock extensions she enjoys as well but still prefers the real thing even as small as it is. I introduced the idea of the cage as Masturbation control for me so. I can keep up with her in my older age now and that is totally true, it helps a lot. It's also a kink and a turn on to wear. She didn't flip totally out at least but she didn't like the idea of ownership of my orgasms. I showed it to her and how it fit and worked. She said she need to think it over and I didn't push it anymore and we had some normal fun. Couple nights later she said she didn't think she was interested, she really doesn't like the master slave concept at all but it was too late to pull that out of her head. So it's been a few months now, I've been using it more and more, ohh she did say she didn't care if I used it on my own though, anyway she mentioned a few weeks ago during pillow talk that she wasn't sure if she was going to be able to get into or ready for playing around with the cage yet but she had been working on getting over some mental blocks about some kinds of kink we want to do but cause of some personal issues she has had trouble dealing with. I didn't think much of the statement other than she brought it up and not me. So I've been wearing it 24/7 until she gets in the mood for some action, usually once a week maybe twice. A week ago she initiated things and when it got to the point he wanted me in her I had to tell her I needed to take it off, she said ok and that was that, we got busy but no complaints. We'll last night we were both were in the mood and had missed out on doing anything Valentines night cause she was wiped from a long day and so was I. I got the nerve since it was a special occasion and asked her if she thought she could handle touching me whilst was still on and maybe helping take it off. She said YES! She with out hesitation she slid her hand down the front of my boxers and explored for about 5 minutes. I stopped it just cause I was achingly hard and didn't want to over due her first experience. I grabbed the key and stripped and explained how the integral lock worked and she broke me free. I had already given her a mind blowing orgasm by hand and mouth so she just wanted me to give it to her and fill her up with a load. Unfortunately it didn't take long but I had been so hard for a long time! Hope this wasn't to wordy and long but I finally had something to share!