Me [21/F] with my bf [22/M] six months living together, I have been feeling taken for granted and after V-Day I just don't know how to feel or what to do

I don't know, I need some advice or reassuring words or just to vent so here goes.

I did some searching for a guy I felt to be my soulmate, we briefly connected and then lost connection after broken phones and moving and stuff. I found him maybe a month or so later and met him for the first and it was the most incredible experience of my life.I've never felt so whole, so destined to be with someone. So electrified by love. And his living situation, mental, emotional and physical health have all just taken a beating. He's just not in a good place, so I just stayed here. Hoping that I could at least help him get out of here. (It's really bad guys, his mom is a horrible parent she let's her kids do whatever, disrespect her, she doesn't care about her house,when I came here the basement where he stays was traaaassshed, there was animal fecal matter everywhere, black fucking mold, I cleaned the basement and kitchen upon staying. Without being asked and she still treats me like shit) but I digress.

I even got pneumonia AND bronchitis my first month living here.

Really digressing.

So at first things were good,he got a job. I quit mine (in a different state) cause I had a bit of money saved up. Was paying for our food and everything we might need,he was mostly buying weed which was fine with me at that point. Fast forward, I'm pretty much out of money, finally getting over my second bout with pneumonia, he quits his job because he can't handle being told what to do and I'm frantically trying to get work. Now fast forward again another four month's. I've been working since I could function, literally supporting the both of us. I've bought a car, got it insured,trying to get it registered. I've saved 800$. And he is still at home every day playing video games, not applying for jobs, rarely even cleaning up unless I am or I say something about it. Telling me not to nag him or simply remind him of things but otherwise doesn't do it. I get it, he's depressed. He has a lot going on. I completely understand and that's why I'm here but it's feels like he's completely taking advantage at this point and just doesn't really care.but I have never felt love the way I do with him and I know to the core of my bones he has so much more potential he just doesn't care and doesn't want to try. Blah.

So, we've been having a rough time lately because I'm frustrated and at my wits end and he's hurting but doesn't seem to understand where I'm coming from. So V-Day, we are together all day and he says nothing. I go in to work at four and get off around 11 and I tell him I wanna be alone for a little while because I'm already upset and had a terrible night at work serving all these cute happy couples and my bf forgot. But then he can't even let me be alone for a little while and like go to his friends house so I invited his friend in and he gets all pissed and we pretty much go to bed like that. Then the next day he says something about why was I so snappy, and I trued to explain and he whips out a grocery store bag as if he's had something planned all along. I open it only to DOUBLE STUFFED OREOS which I hate and he loves. And he knows because every single time he gets them I take off about half the icing and he usually eats it. Then when I asked who the Oreo's were for and he realized, he tried to say he was gonna get me something else but saw Oreo's and was thinking about the new Oreo challenge happening, and blah blah blah.

Is it me or is that selfish and just being oblivious? Like. Literally he didn't even have to try to get me anything he could've changed the bulb on my car I've been asking him to change going on two weeks now. But to get the cookies you like for me and then be like oh they're for us tehe I've been asking him to be more mindful, more considerate, to take responsible, even if it's all in baby steps. But he refuses to believe that he can and refuses to try.

I don't know, I got carried away with little details. Advise me? Help me? How should I approach this?

**TL;DR;**My boyfriend isn't trying to better himself and I have sacrificed so much to be here with him in this terrible environment, to see him blossom and to grow with him and it's been making me feel taken for granted and just misunderstood and not appreciated. Then Valentine's Day he didn't say or do anything until we spent the majority of the day running errands and I went to work and got me Oreo's I don't like (which to me is just like home saying yeah I don't really care, I tried to do the bare minimum with no thought) and I just don't know how to feel or where to go from here :/

Thanks for at least reading:3