BF's ex-wife is threatening to press charges against me for harassment. NJ

Hello there!

My boyfriend’s ex-wife has been stalking and harassing me since he and I began dating. She found my Instagram and Twitter even though neither of them were set up using my real name, location, email address, and we have no mutual friends. My boyfriend doesn’t have social media so she couldn’t find them that way. He and his ex-wife have three children and have 50/50 custody.

His ex-wife saw that I posted a photo of my boyfriend’s son on my Instagram, with the permission of both the child and my boyfriend, and freaked out. She called my boyfriend late at night and texted him until he answered her phone call – this was last May. That weekend she came into his house when she knew he wouldn’t be there to confront me about the photo and “talk to me” and I called the cops because she just walked into his house, without knocking and knowing full well he wouldn’t be home. After that I sent a Cease and Desist letter saying I would press charges if she didn’t back off. (I’m not the first girlfriend of his that she’s done this to and it wasn’t the first time she went into his house to confront someone he was seeing.) She responded with her own cease and desist saying I was stalking and harassing her. She then sent texts to my boyfriend stating that she was scared I was molesting her daughter, threatened to press charges against him if I was around the children, wanted to change their parenting agreement, etc. But nothing ever really came of it.

She continued to stalk my social media and I made everything private. She continued to text him about me, about our relationship, would show up to concerts she knew he and I would be at, would drive past his house and honk, says stuff to the kids about me, would call my phone with a blocked number at random times throughout the night, etc. About a month ago he and I were going through a rough patch and I moved out of his house. I guess the kids told their mom that I wasn’t living there anymore and she kept asking him about me, if we broke up, who broke up with who, and to not let me around the kids – more specifically she wanted him to sign something stating I would never be around the kids. He told her that his private life is none of her business and that I’ve never done anything to the kids and that she was trying to manipulate him and control him. She found out that me and him went to a concert with their one son less than a week ago and freaked out. She continued to press him for information about us so I wrote an email to her and copied the local PD stating that I was going to press charges should she continue to harass us. I just got a call from my boyfriend saying that his ex-wife called him and was going to press charges against me for harassment and that she was going to file a petition to change their custody agreement so that I am not allowed around her children anymore and to try to take them away from him. I was going to go to the police department after work tonight to see if I could press charges or get advice about what to do. Any legal advice would be helpful. I just want to live my life free of her harassment and have a relationship with my boyfriend where he isn’t constantly harassed by his ex-wife.