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Toppoki

Kind of sad about no first dance...any advice?

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I'm having a fairly small wedding, family only. Almost everyone will be Chinese and I don't anticipate there's going to be any dancing going on... only the younger generation family members would probably want to dance and I just thought it's not worth having a mostly empty dance floor.

However, once my fiancé told me he always envisioned us doing our wedding first dance to a certain song that I thought was romantic and perfect, and I'm sad I won't be able to have that moment. (He doesn't seem to mind)

I've thought about using it as a recessional song but it's a pop song and my ceremony music will be done by a Hawaiian guitar soloist so I don't see that working.

Is there anywhere else in a wedding where you can incorporate a romantic pop love song?

Posted Apr 29, 2017, 4:52 AM UTC

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choojo444Sept 23 Indiana•

I've been to a wedding where the couple had a first dance but that was the only dancing that happened. So I think you could have one even if you're not having dancing for everyone

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ToppokiOPDestination Wedding | Hawaii•

Yah I'm thinking maybe I should!! Thanks!!

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Lillybee1209•

Maybe you could end your wedding with a first dance? Have a small spot cleared for you both to dance in and you could even give your friends and family indoor sparklers if you could get permission from your venue for it!

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ToppokiOPDestination Wedding | Hawaii•

Thanks for the idea!!

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FullMetalAliChemistJune 2017 ♥ SF•

Aww... I think you guys should do a first dance at least if you're feeling this way.

):

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ToppokiOPDestination Wedding | Hawaii•

Yah, I think I will try to work it in somehow! Thanks!!

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AndMyHeartWentBOOM•

I went to a wedding last summer where there was no dancing except for the bride and grooms 1st dance! The bride and groom were both 26.

•Was it a little odd? To be honest, yeah a little. A lot of the younger people were a little bummed that there was no dancing for the rest of us but I think it was more the transition of events. It was very -Here's a slideshow of us -here's the first dance -now here's the bouquet toss While we all just sad in our seats.

•Was it a beautiful moment for the bride and groom? YES!!! It was so wonderful to see the love and adoration that had for each other as they danced. We oood and awed and took pictures and slow-mo video. I absolutely still remember the look of peaceful joy on my friend's face for those magical moments.

So if you and your husband want to dance then dance! This is party celebrating your love and commitment. IT'S YOUR PARTY AND YOU CAN DANCE IF YOU WANT TO!!!

As a side note, there are a ton of different ways to go about it but,for the wedding I attended, had they walked into the reception with "I introduce for the 1st time Mr and Mrs blah blah" then gone straight into their first dance before sitting down, it would have made it not odd at all.

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ToppokiOPDestination Wedding | Hawaii•

Thanks that gives me hope :)

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jannetblasphotoCA + TX wedding photog•

Can you do your first dance after your first look (if you're having one)? Or in that in-between time of ceremony/portraits and reception before you're announced (sometimes couples also eat during this time)? Or even at the very end?

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PickleCaretaker[10|21|17] [Troy.NY]•

I love the idea of having a private first dance after the ceremony. I might have to add that to our photo list, wait for everyone to leave for the reception, and have a private moment together in the chapel.

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PickleCaretaker[10|21|17] [Troy.NY]•

I love the idea of having a private first dance after the ceremony. I might have to add that to our photo list, wait for everyone to leave for the reception, and have a private moment together in the chapel.

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PickleCaretaker[10|21|17] [Troy.NY]•

I love the idea of having a private first dance after the ceremony. I might have to add that to our photo list, wait for everyone to leave for the reception, and have a private moment together in the chapel.

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PickleCaretaker[10|21|17] [Troy.NY]•

I love the idea of having a private first dance after the ceremony. I might have to add that to our photo list, wait for everyone to leave for the reception, and have a private moment together in the chapel.

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PickleCaretaker[10|21|17] [Troy.NY]•

I love the idea of having a private first dance after the ceremony. I might have to add that to our photo list, wait for everyone to leave for the reception, and have a private moment together in the chapel.

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PickleCaretaker[10|21|17] [Troy.NY]•

I love the idea of having a private first dance after the ceremony. I might have to add that to our photo list, wait for everyone to leave for the reception, and have a private moment together in the chapel.

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PickleCaretaker[10|21|17] [Troy.NY]•

I love the idea of having a private first dance after the ceremony. I might have to add that to our photo list, wait for everyone to leave for the reception, and have a private moment together in the chapel.

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PickleCaretaker[10|21|17] [Troy.NY]•

I love the idea of having a private first dance after the ceremony. I might have to add that to our photo list, wait for everyone to leave for the reception, and have a private moment together in the chapel.

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PickleCaretaker[10|21|17] [Troy.NY]•

I love the idea of having a private first dance after the ceremony. I might have to add that to our photo list, wait for everyone to leave for the reception, and have a private moment together in the chapel.

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bumblesloth•

I don't have any advice for you unfortunately but I am curious to see what you come up with as a solution, since I'm in the same boat (always wanted a first dance, not having a dancing wedding due to cost/low guest participation). My only thought so far was to have a private first dance once we get back home but I'm still kind of sad to think there won't be any pictures of it.

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ToppokiOPDestination Wedding | Hawaii•

I think I'm going to do just the first dance, and no other dancing after that... it seems the key is to transition smoothly in and out.

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JindallaeFall 2018/CNY•

Do the first dance - then go cut the cake and serve! Maybe you can even do a cake cart where you two go to each table to deliver slices. That way there's YUMMY DELICIOUS FOOD to curb any awkwardness

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ToppokiOPDestination Wedding | Hawaii•

Haha that is a great idea XD thanks!!

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melly620•

We're not planning to have dancing at our reception but are still planning to do a first dance! We're having a small-ish wedding and also felt that none of our older family are going to want to dance and we don't have enough younger friends who are the dancing type to really do it without it being awkward. So we're not going to have a big dance floor, but you don't really need that much space to do a first dance. We're just going to set up the room so that we have a very small space on the side for us to do our first dance in. Think...big enough to fit maybe 6 people standing together but definitely not big enough for it to be a dance floor.

Maybe you could do something like that? I'd really encourage you to do a first dance if you want to! You can make it work!

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ToppokiOPDestination Wedding | Hawaii•

Yah I totally feel you, my wedding situation is exactly the same. But that sounds awesome and I think I'll try to do that too :) thanks!!

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