Rainy, Rainy, where for art thou Rainy

So I've for many months now read the fairytales of Tim and Rainy on this thread, so I thought to myself I'm a loser laowai maybe I too can come to harmony Guo and find my very own Rainy. I've been at it now for many a month, sending mystical runes on Tan Tan "faychangwoorao" (非常勿扰 also the name of a popular dating show in the Guo loosely translating to only come if youre serious) as I don't want to meet someone who just wants to use me for my body. So I met this mayzer and we had an awesome dinner, though the problem is she didn't compliment my chopstick nanglee , we both drank bingshway and she didn't resist me shoving my inferior western values down her throat. What the hell am I dealing with here, she doesn't seem like a rainy, and the only successful intercultural relationships I know of are between Tim and Rainys? Warzemeban?