[Sexual Awakening] I as a man in my 40's seem to have had a sexual awakening of sorts with my amazing girlfriend who is very open sexually. Where do I go from here?

A bit long, but good for conversation I think. TLDR at the bottom.

So a bit of back story: I am a pretty shy guy and have been conditioned to believe that sex should always be romantic and basically fairly vanilla and my conservative ex wife made me feel ashamed of my sexuality.

I am now with a fantastic woman who I absolutely love and respect. We have been together about 4 months now and she is very open about sex and we have done things that I have only fantasized about. In short, I have had a sexual awakening of sorts. As a guy, this seems rare for some reason as I only really see this in reference to women.

I am still working on getting out of my shell and I am very driven to explore my new found sexuality and to give her the best experience possible.

What really got this going into high gear is that we did the Mojo Upgrade survey and many of her "yes" answers were things that I have been conditioned through both my upbringing and my 12 years with my ex wife to believe are degrading to women, or wrong in some other way. However most of these were things that I had secretly desired and repressed for 20 or more years. I am very excited and turned on by the exploration of these fantasies and kinks if you will. but I feel I could use some help, encouragement and tips to really get out of my comfort zone.

Some examples: Lat time we had sex, she told me that she likes to feel like a slut. So where do I go from here? I love and adore this woman, and because she wants to feel like a slut in the bedroom, I want to give her that, but my mind just struggles to call her a slut or treat her as such, as I have been conditioned to believe that that is wrong and insulting. For the record, this also turns me on. It's just the cognitive dissonance is strong.

She asked me to cum on her face (I am a luck guy, I know) and it was super hot, but my brain is still confused by all of this. I am consciously aware that this doesn't mean that I don't love her, yet my wiring says otherwise.

Other things she checked off on the list are:

being dominant and submissive having us be more vocal talking dirty to her using light restraints (and other light BDSM interest. and one that really through me is having a weapon (gun, knife etc) pointed at here during sex. I have a replica gun and she said that would be hot. BUt she is shy in telling me what I should do with it. Which would probably take some fun out of it if she told me anyway.

So I am basically in sexual heaven right now, but I need to learn how to rewire my brain and let loose.

Any tips? Women or men, what would having a weapon pointed at you do for you? If you like to feel like a slut, what does this look like?

TLDR: I have been conditioned by my upbringing and ex wife to feel ashamed of my sexual kinks. New GF wants to feel like a slut etc, and I want to give her that, but struggle with it because I love and respect her, and am wired to believe that this would be hurtful or disrespectful to her, even though I think it's hot too and want to explore this.

Please help shed some light on this mindset and what these things mean to you and what you love about them?

Thanks.