( x post from r/relationship_advice) Most complicated relationship situation I've ever been in. Mothers and fathers, I could use some help and some insight.

So i got my "girlfriend" pregnant about 8 or 9 months ago (getting close). When it first happened it started as a one night stand sort of thing and then she developed feelings for me. I was trying to establish feelings around the time but just wasnt as into it and I broke up with her for a short time then i had 20/20 hindsight about the whole thing and she took me back and as the pregnancy continued she would keep breaking up with me and then changing her mind (we both chalked it up to the pregnancy and the hormones). She decided she doesnt want to be a couple for the expressed reason that she would just keep breaking up with me and didnt want the stress of our relationship (which makes sense particularly because for the most part we still carry on like a couple and the love still seemed to be there). In the last two months or so she has become very distant and cold and seemingly unconcerned about my feelings regarding our relationship. That being said, I understand that she is in the hardest part of this pregnancy and probably doesnt have alot of time or patience to deal with our relationship or my insecurities regarding the future and I've been doing my best to put my feelings to the side and remain supportive but I just have this sneaking suspicion and ever growing feeling that she just plain isnt in love with me anymore but that she's afraid to let me go because of the baby. As much as I love her I dont want to be with someone who isnt in love with me anymore but im terrified to jump the gun and make any selfish decisions, especially if im just reading this whole thing wrong. I cant even bring our relationship up without her avoiding the conversation entirely or trying to put space in between us and I feel like with the baby being so imminent and the recovery time and everything else; my feelings and our relationship is going to continue to be sidelined. Im trying to be strong about this but im losing my mind. I wake up everyday with my heart in my stomach afraid to even bring it up.

As i said in the headline, any advice from mothers in particular but also fathers that have had a similar experience would be very welcome.

Thanks reddit