Boyfriend [37M] is ghosting me [27F]... he has my things and I don't know what to do

We've known each other for a year or so and dated for a while last year. We've been dating this time for about 3 months.

He's got a history of 'telling me off' and ignoring me/ breaking up with me/ telling me I'm on my 'last chance'.

I am quite accident prone and I can be messy - at the beginning of our relationship I was especially nervous and I got make up on his bed cover and I also spilt some wine on a throw. I apologised for both and have said I'm trying my best to not do anything like that again (I put make up on in the bathroom now). It all seemed okay and he didn't mention it again.

Fast forward a couple of months and I lost his house key in a different country. I had a stressful weekend and to cut a long story short, it fell out of my bag. The key has no identifying information on it whatsoever - so yes, annoying, but no security risk.

Anyway, in his words he is 'fuming' - he told me that 'I'd better hope it turns up' etc.etc. He said it shows a total lack of respect. I said I'm sorry about 15 times, I've offered to pay for new keys to be cut, but he didn't calm down. I am honestly sorry - I know I'm a pain, and I feel stupid for losing it.

This was on Thursday... he usually calls three times a day and hasn't been in contact since.

I'm tired of his silence / anger / being told off. He usually has reason to be exceptionally annoyed with me at least once a week but these last couple of weeks I've been really careful. He harbours so much resentment to me I just don't know what to do. At my house he has my passport amongst lots of clothes, jewellery, medication.

I contacted him this morning to say 'I'm disappointed you haven't been able to speak to me like an adult... at the very least I need to know when I can get my things - you have my passport'. He's been online since.

What should I do? He lives about an hour away and there's no guaranteeing he'll answer the door or even be in. This is making me really nervous... i know he wants it to be his decision to talk, but I feel on edge... at the very least I want my stuff back and to know that we're done. I really don't think I'm that bad...

TL;DR boyfriend is furious that I lost something of his. I've apologised but he won't speak to me. He has my stuff including my passport and I want it back.